Hi all, interesting conversation.
At 2/5/13 10:35 AM, Saen wrote:
Anyone who becomes intoxicated or high on a substance late in the evening is victimizing him/herself. Women especially since they are generally weaker and more attractive targets for rapists.
Well in the UK at least, the chances of a male being the victim of crime while intoxicated are substantially higher than the risks faced by women. I know we have a lot more violent crime than the US, however, but I can't imagine the cultures are all that different.
They aren't asking to be raped
What's weird is that it is very rare that I hear anyone say anyone is 'asking to be raped' (SenatorJohnDean came pretty damn close though), although I hear 'nobody is asking to be raped' all the time from feminists on the internet. Like, almost everyone would agree that nobody ever 'asks to be raped'. If I ever heard anyone say, "well she was asking for it," I would consider them to be an absolute arsehole. And would probably snitch on them.
Also using false generalizations like "feminists hate sex and men" is the same fallacy you were ranting about.
Yeah, that's why I was very careful to use qualifiers like 'some' and 'many' in the OP. I would describe myself as a 'feminist' in that I believe in social equality between the sexes and think that females are equally as valuable as males.
I had worked and volunteered for Planned Parenthood for a year
good work, fair play to you
It seems to me that there's nothing wrong with feminism and this is really a non issue.
I suggest you read the article in the OP.
The problem is women are still being victimized on the streets and in the household.
Must a crime committed by a male against a female be a feminist issue? DV and rape, I think, do not have to be feminist issues. I speak as someone who was sexually assaulted by a homosexual 'friend' while asleep (and drunk), and as someone who has had to deal with violence in relationships perpetrated by drunk women - this means that I get actively pissed off when I hear about these issues in the context of 'the patriarchy'. Also, a man who has been attacked by another man might feel completely unable to go to the courts and report the offence, and there are very few support mechanisms around to help them. DV too.
At 2/5/13 12:50 PM, Camarohusky wrote:
As for court proceedings, I can say that the notion they are geared heavily toward mothers is a complete and utter falsehood. Of the cases I had where both the mother and father could be found, I had just as many end up with the Dad getting custody against the mother as the mother getting custody against the father.
Really? I only feel confident talking about the UK, where just 8% of lone parents are fathers and 1 in 3 children are raised without a father because of gender imbalances in family court.
- The DV aspect. Men committ DV more than women (how much more is a big dispute) but when men commit DV they do it quite differently than women do. Women DV perpetrators often play the victim to the outside world to garner sympathy and thus give them power. Men, on the other hand, polish their images like crazy so that the world believes there's no way they could commit DV. SO in these cases, to the outside world, it would seem that the upstanding dad is losing the child to the broken mom who turned to drugs, when in reality she turned to drugs as a way to cope with the domestic violence.
In the DV aspect, a man could be attacked by his partner and feel completely unable to speak to the authorities, because the moment they'll get through the door, they'll arrest the man by default. If a man commits violence towards his partner, then everyone will condemn him as a useless piece of shit, but if a woman does the same, they'll bend over backwards to find reasons for it. And Dianne can kick Sam in the balls in Cheers and the audience find it hilarious, but if Sam did something similar, the audience would never be able to like him again.