At 1/19/13 02:37 PM, TomTheJuggler111 wrote:
When in a committed relationship, do you believe it is improper or wrong to have friends of the opposite gender?
Of course it is - during my last relationship, I became good friends with my then-girlfriend's best friend. We are still great friends, perhaps even being closer, since my relationship ended, but if I were to start a new relationship, I'd be only too happy to introduce her to my good friends (since I am close friends with both her and her fiancÃ©e)
In this case, my girlfriend of 5 months who I am very serious with is saying she doesnt feel comfortable with me having female friends, even though they are just friends.
It's paranoia, but understandably so. Is your close female friend single? Have you considered getting the two of them together and allowing them to talk, without you in the room? If your girlfriend tells your friend to stay the hell away from you, be prepared to make a choice - friend or girlfriend. If I get into a new relationship and was told / asked to stop seeing some of my friends, because she was paranoid about me perhaps cheating on her, I'd say that I've been close friends with her for years and while being single. If anything were likely to happen between us, it would have happened when I were single, but since she wasn't, nothing did.
I told her I do not feel the need to make new female friends, only to retain the ones I already have that i met before her.
That should be enough for her. If not, the meet (I'd suggest neutral ground - invite out for a drink and both of them can enjoy your company... hopefully.
Specifically, one of my closest most trusted friends in the world who i have known for 5 years. I see her as a completely non-dateable option, she is like a sister to me, she has never and will never be more than a friend and she feels the same way towards me.
Nice to have friends like that, isn't it?
Do you think my girlfriend is justified in asking me to cut ties with my friend or is she simply being paranoid?
Paranoid, but it's a salvageable thing. Take it slow, you'll get there.