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Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 09:41 PM Reply

Are any of you in this situation?

For me, I am the -ONLY- agnostic in my entire Christian family. Whenever I am around my family I got nothing to say.

Also, does anybody feel that when they're having a conversation with a Christian, does it seem some what 'fake' to you? i.e., awkward laughs, restricted to what you should say, etc.

If you have ever experience this type of stuff, please feel free to share it.

NOTE: The purpose of this thread is NOT to change someone's opinion, but to discuss how to deal with situations like this. You get the drill.


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 09:42 PM Reply

I am a Deist, but I don't know if I would call myself really religious or anything.

Also in before possible shit storm/lock.


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 09:45 PM Reply

my mother is a neopagan and my father has never said a word to me about religion

my grandfather is a minister in the church of christ and when i have dinner at his house he makes us do the dinner grace thing which is kinda weird

i'm very friendly with christians and sometimes i go to church to hang out with friends, but i'm a member of the nation of islam


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 09:45 PM Reply

religion is a mental disorder


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 09:45 PM Reply

I don't know what the hell I am, my mom is Jewish and my dad is a Jehovah's Witness and I just don't go to church or anything.

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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 09:47 PM Reply

Move here to the UK because almost literally no one could give two shits about religion.

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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 09:53 PM Reply

At 12/15/12 09:49 PM, Scary wrote: i don't live in a religious family but i have gone to dinner at christian houses

usually when they say grace i just follow their example but usually don't say 'amen' or anything

it would feel rude to just sit there staring at them doing it so i just join in to not offend them

When my canadian uncle comes over he does that but he doesnt really care when no one else does it.

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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 09:55 PM Reply

At 12/15/12 09:45 PM, notYert wrote: religion is a mental disorder

If I had said this people would have flipped shit


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 09:56 PM Reply

At 12/15/12 09:45 PM, PrincessRanicorn wrote: I don't know what the hell I am, my mom is Jewish and my dad is a Jehovah's Witness and I just don't go to church or anything.

You're Jewish. If you were born to a Jewish mother then you are Jewish as well.

@OP I'm not a very devout Christian, whereas my parents are much more involved - so I kinda get where you're coming from. However they seem comfortable with who I am, enough so that I don't have to deal with them regarding the quality of my faith. Same goes for my relatives too.


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 09:58 PM Reply

If I had said this people would have flipped shit

Personally I shook my head/rolled my eyes.


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 09:59 PM Reply

At 12/15/12 09:56 PM, TailsPrower wrote:
At 12/15/12 09:45 PM, PrincessRanicorn wrote: I don't know what the hell I am, my mom is Jewish and my dad is a Jehovah's Witness and I just don't go to church or anything.
You're Jewish. If you were born to a Jewish mother then you are Jewish as well.

But I've never practiced the religion? lol, speaking of which is it a religion or a race?

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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 10:01 PM Reply

But I've never practiced the religion? lol, speaking of which is it a religion or a race?

Ever since The Holocaust, people refer to it as a race but just see it as a religion.


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 10:03 PM Reply

At 12/15/12 09:58 PM, Ilssm wrote: Personally I shook my head/rolled my eyes.

funny, i do the same thing to your presence on these forums


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 10:04 PM Reply

At 12/15/12 09:59 PM, PrincessRanicorn wrote:
But I've never practiced the religion? lol, speaking of which is it a religion or a race?

it's more of a culture than a race.

saying jews are a race is like saying gingers are a race.

coppercab reference ftw

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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 10:06 PM Reply

funny, i do the same thing to your presence on these forums

Glad to know I'm making a difference.


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 10:08 PM Reply

At 12/15/12 10:03 PM, notYert wrote:
At 12/15/12 09:58 PM, Ilssm wrote: Personally I shook my head/rolled my eyes.
funny, i do the same thing to your presence on these forums

Thats a coincidence, I do too to his presence.

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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 10:08 PM Reply

At 12/15/12 10:07 PM, MonthlyVolatile wrote:
At 12/15/12 10:01 PM, Ilssm wrote:
But I've never practiced the religion? lol, speaking of which is it a religion or a race?
Ever since The Holocaust, people refer to it as a race but just see it as a religion.
What the fuck are you even...

the more you know...


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 10:09 PM Reply

At 12/15/12 10:07 PM, MonthlyVolatile wrote:
At 12/15/12 10:01 PM, Ilssm wrote:
But I've never practiced the religion? lol, speaking of which is it a religion or a race?
Ever since The Holocaust, people refer to it as a race but just see it as a religion.
What the fuck are you even...

I don't know what to believe about myself

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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 10:09 PM Reply

At 12/15/12 10:08 PM, BumFodder wrote:
At 12/15/12 10:03 PM, notYert wrote:
At 12/15/12 09:58 PM, Ilssm wrote: Personally I shook my head/rolled my eyes.
funny, i do the same thing to your presence on these forums
Thats a coincidence, I do too to his presence.

Really? He's a cool guy, and he doesn't start conflicts, why does everyone dislike him all of a sudden?


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 10:14 PM Reply

I always feel uncomfortable seeing my Uncle for Christmas, he has a crucifix in his house and goes to church on Sundays while I am Atheist. I don't mention it to him, out of respect, but it makes me feel alienated.


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 10:55 PM Reply

I am in that situation and I also live right in the middle of the Bible Belt. I just let the older generations think that I believe in God because it just isn't worth it to argue with them. For now my life will run more smoothly if I continue to pretend to be Christian.


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 11:14 PM Reply

My parents aren't religious and I grew up with my mother in an unreligious setting, with a slight view of christianity mostly for tradition. All she did religion wise was to take me with her to church once a year around Christmas for traditions sake, other than that she never talked about god or neither talked about atheism, we just sort of ignored it all.

My wider family however were more religious, my grand parents where Christian though they never really talked about it, we just went to visit them around Christmas for a big enjoyable meal as a buffet style deal which was great. My mothers brother on the other hand was quite religious himself unlike my mother but they tended not to get along too well so we didn't have to deal with him that much. He was a nice man, but his views were a little, excessive, when it came to wanting to demand Christian beliefs.

The most religious of our family was my great uncle who was incredibly Christian, we went around to his mansion on Christmas day and had an absolutely huge meal on the grand table, it was great. He also dressed up as Father Christmas to give us all presents. My mother didn't pretend he was the character herself to us she was quite open with agreeing with us when we said it was our uncle, but regardless it was a family tradition and we continued to do it and let him do what he wished each year, we went along with the prayers he would give before meals and not question the Christian stuff he would say as for once a year it was nice to listen to him as he was close to the only member of our family to be such an adapt Christian and it was kind to let him believe what he wished, as all should do.

Over all my family mostly kept to themselves and we did the same, so the Christian members had their values and we had ours and as far as we know they likely thought we were still Christian, as I suppose we still are, but that they thought we still practiced it.

The single problem we had with our families religion was when they would attempt to force their views, for example when my mother let it slip that I wasn't straight (She isn't exactly the best at keeping her mouth closed) she got quite a lot of hatred from it from her brother and my great Uncle, as they had the view that homosexuality etc. was sinful and you cn sort of see how that went down. But after a while they sort of shut up as they realised yelling at my mother due to my sexual orientation isn't going to do anything, it isn't like she can force me to change it. The best way to deal with that is to just keep our families separate and not talk to each other. Which sadly is what happened after my grand parents died. But alas when the family is as broken as it is then you don't have to worry about religious views of those members anymore I suppose.


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 11:17 PM Reply

Eh be honest and unrestricted,people who are restricted because of those aorund them


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 11:23 PM Reply

At 12/15/12 11:14 PM, Ragnarokia wrote:

As far as living with religious people goes, I would actually classify school to be far more of a problem than my family ever was. Since I went to a ridiculously Christian secondary school which not only held prayers in the asemblies but also occasionally brought in vicars to talk and also forced every student to walk down to a church on their special founding day thing for listening to prayers AND sing some. Needless to say many of us just stayed at home on that day and they couldn't really complain about it too strictly as it isn't like it is legal to force people to do religious things. Oh wait, they did. Also when it came to religious education 90% of it was Christian, despite the point of it being to research all religions, yea.

I also once had some over the top Christian guy come into our school to talk to a group of us. He actually deliberately stated that homosexuals will go to hell. A speaker said that in a school...needless to say he kept that view even after I mentioned of my orientation. So I went straight to the teachers after that and pointed out what the guy did and how it was blatantly illegal to do that in a school, they said they would deal with it...but I bet they didn't.

So yea, when it comes to my family they weren't a problem at all compared to the shit I had to deal with in school.


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 11:25 PM Reply

Atheist and skeptic, but I just pretend that I'm Christian. They don't need to know, and some label isn't exactly intrinsic to how I look at life.

It's not a big deal.

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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 11:34 PM Reply

I'm an Atheist in a pretty christen family. It doesn't bother me at all. If I wasn't comfortable with my beliefs they probably wouldn't be genuine.

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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 11:36 PM Reply

I'm in a similar situation, the only other agnostic in my family for the most part is my sister. Honestly, we just avoid discussing religion like the plague, because it doesn't really accomplish anything, other than strengthening the fact that our family holds different beliefs, and that expressing our differing views would only bring harassment.


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 11:37 PM Reply

Atheist in a Catholic family here. Rarely tell anyone I'm an atheist. That's why I moved out on my own.


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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 11:39 PM Reply

I'm an apatheist in a stereotypical black church family. As long as I don't shoehorn my lack of faith into every conversation I have, they actually leave me alone about it. Go fig.

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Response to Non-religious in a Christian family Dec. 15th, 2012 @ 11:50 PM Reply

At 12/15/12 11:39 PM, kisame wrote: I'm an apatheist in a stereotypical black church family. As long as I don't shoehorn my lack of faith into every conversation I have, they actually leave me alone about it. Go fig.

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