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Response to My girlfriends parents hate me Dec. 4th, 2012 @ 11:58 PM Reply

Simple.
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Response to My girlfriends parents hate me Dec. 5th, 2012 @ 12:16 AM Reply

Alright, this thread is a picture dump so I'm just going to scan for the OP's posts.

You didn't provide a huge amount of information about this, but it doesn't sound too different from what I went through a while back. It's always easy to just say, "If she's just going to listen to your parents, she's not worth your time," but the fact is a lot of those feelings and possibly fears are buried deep down in habit, and doesn't necessarily mean that your girlfriend is prioritizing their word over yours. It just means that your relationship is built on a really dangerous fault line and you're both going to have to work extra hard to get things to work out.

As someone who is polyamorous, it's kind of hard for me to give recommendations as to what you could do about your parents pushing her to date another guy. Ideally I would say that you two should be able to share her, but given that most of the world doesn't work like that, such a suggestion may not be entirely realistic.

Right now my biggest suggestion is to make sure that you and your girlfriend are communicating with each other. That was the biggest source of pain between my friend and me; we didn't have a long talk about it until a year and a half later, and we both regret that. Make sure that you each know what the other wants, and try and work together to formulate some kind of solution, even if it's not perfect.

If the two of you can talk openly, then it should really just boil down to how the two of you feel toward each other. And then all you can do is follow those feelings.


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Response to My girlfriends parents hate me Dec. 5th, 2012 @ 03:47 AM Reply

If she really deserves you then she will like you for you. If you treat her right then that is what her parents should care about.

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Response to My girlfriends parents hate me Dec. 5th, 2012 @ 04:24 AM Reply

No, really OP, are you omitting the possibility that you might actually be a piece of shit?

I'm just saying it's a matter of perspective. It would make sense why you wouldn't think that you're a piece of shit, so the parents might immediately be wrong from your point of view. "They're just assholes"

But at the core, you will be biased to put yourself and your priorities first. Try to use some empathy, and critical self analysis to really deduce if you are, in fact, a piece of shit. If so, what could you do differently in your life?


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Response to My girlfriends parents hate me Dec. 5th, 2012 @ 05:06 AM Reply

If she need to think about dating that guy, just to please her parents, then you really need to drop that bitch.