Is this becoming a relationship story time thread?
I am currently dating my ideal girlfriend, I really mean it, this girl I am dating is amazing, in my eyes. I absolutely love her.
The two of us ended up meeting at a very strange time in our lives, well, not strange... Just a terrible time in our lives. You see, she was to be moving out of the city within a few months of us meeting, I was okay with that at the time because her and I were just friends who would get drunk and kiss and stuff. I'm getting ahead of myself though.
After two or three failed relationship attempts in 2012 (I was seeing some girls, all left me for another guy before anything was official, I was never good enough, because I lost my job), I had almost given up on even bothering. One night, I was at a friend's house having a few beers, it was almost 10:00PM, and we were thinking of calling it a night, but then I got a text message and was asked to go to a social function at a friend's house who I had not seen in ages, so I figured what the hell, might as well.
I got more beer and went there. Now, I'd known my girlfriend for a long time, but we never really talked much up until February when we re-met.
To try leaving this story short, we partied/drank together two weekends in a row, and then we began hanging out every single day shortly after that. Her and I never had sex or anything before we dated, we'd kiss and stuff, I treated her like a girlfriend and she treated me like a boyfriend. Her best friend began dating my best friend, before her and I began dating.
Within a few weeks of the four of us hanging out, my friend gets 40,000 dollars from insurance, due to being hit by a vehicle a number of years back. We were all excited, 40,000 dollars! I didn't expect anything from it whatsoever, and my friend planned on saving 30,000 of it. Well, it's safe to say that 30,000 or more ended up going toward alcohol, cocaine, and a lot more alcohol.
We were all fucked up, all four of us were drinking every day. Cocaine never came into it up until March sometime, and my girlfriend and I got out of it as soon as possible, she got out quicker than I did. My friend ended up spending 30,000 or so dollars within three months, and I told him I couldn't keep living that way, I had to quit drinking daily, and doing drugs entirely. He got mad, but whatever. Him and his girlfriend broke up early on kind of. About three months ago.
Although my girlfriend ended up moving cities for university, we decided to stay together and try our best to make it work. She is only about 2.5 hours away, so it is not terrible - But as a boyfriend, and a person who has been fucked over by other girls, I worry about things.
Anyway, her and I both have bettered each other's lives, she helped me quit drinking every day (I drank literally every day for probably 2 months or so), and helped me quit doing drugs, well, gave me a reason to quit doing drugs (I probably did blow just about every day for 1.5 - 2 months at that time).
The two of us started off really rocky, I was a real asshole to her because of the booze and drugs, and it was constant fighting over the phone because I was always shit faced when she would call me, or I would call her. It was a disaster, so I agreed that maybe this relationship is more important, and substances were not.
Now, I have spent all summer with her, we talk about wanting a future together, but are taking it one day at a time. We do not want to move in with each other yet, because we do not want to ruin the relationship by jumping into things too fast, but we are both very happy. We agree that we have become each other's second halves, and I consider her my best friend, as well as my girlfriend.
Blah blah blah.
Sorry to hear about your misfortunes, especially after three years, that really would suck, I cannot imagine how shitty it felt. Hopefully I don't have to go through that, though I am young and life doesn't seem to work out well all the time... However, her and I have high hopes, we have both matured a lot and made a lot of changes to make things work.
I'd also recommend that nobody drink alcohol and do drugs every day for that long every day. It really changes you as a person and will hurt those around you, especially your loved ones.