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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 11:05 AM Reply

At 8/10/12 07:25 AM, Sensationalism wrote:
At 8/9/12 10:35 PM, Sensationalism wrote: Why is it okay for the cheater to make a very important decision for their spouse? But it's not okay for someone brought into the situation by the cheater to make people aware of his actions?
Why are you ignoring this question? You keep saying telling on him is a decision that shouldn't have been made for him. So I'm really curious why you think the husband has a right to make a decision for his wife like that?

because he doesn't have a counterargument. All he does is respond with various iterations of "snitching sucks don't do it"

notice how his only response to ifun saying that he didn't agree that snitching sucks was "yes it does something about euthanasia"

it's also painfully obvious that he doesn't have much relationship experience and I know that's an ad hominem but whatever. it's true


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 03:02 PM Reply

At 8/10/12 05:12 AM, Xenomit wrote: I'm not failing to understand why she told him about him hitting on her, but it still wasn't up to her to tell him about the other gal

Just because someone does something wrong to you, and does something similar to another person, doesn't mean you tell a 3rd party (his wife) both incidents

The reason I told the wife about the other girl, the other girl told me I should tell her. Honestly, I was kind of annoyed at the time that he'd find me on Facebook, add me, and act like it'm my fault I didn't know he was married. He never had anything on Twitter about it or told to me. I figured I might as well let the wife know everything to know how in depth his actions went.

I honestly feel bad for the wife, I know I told her a bunch of stuff she'd never want to hear. But I mean, this guy has done stuff like before and put them in marriage counseling. I thought it was ridiculous that the wife told me that he did something like this 5 months ago and he'd been talking to me for more than 5 months. So all the while he's in marriage counseling and suppose to be fixing his married, he'd been talking to me and the other girl.

I mean, never telling one girl you're not married or ever mentioning it is one thing.

Telling another girl you're married but your wife allows you to date other girls just adds more to the fact, especially since the only reason he told the other girl was because he added her on fb and she found out.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 03:13 PM Reply

At 8/10/12 04:37 AM, Xenomit wrote:
At 8/10/12 04:33 AM, NinoGrounds wrote: They are idiots. Good job. And we share the same disdain
I can assure you I'm no idiot.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 03:15 PM Reply

there was no physical sexing, so there for there was no cheating, therfore terah is a bitch.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 03:41 PM Reply

At 8/10/12 03:16 PM, Travis wrote: If your girlfriend was talking to another guy about how she wanted to fuck him, don't tell me you wouldn't dump the bitch or at the very least be pissed off at her.

I would be pissed but its not cheating. there has to be physical contact for that to happen at least Im not petty like the majority of you fucking white knights in this thread

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 04:02 PM Reply

I agree with everything Bees just said.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 04:16 PM Reply

At 8/10/12 03:45 PM, Travis wrote: What you constitute as cheating doesn't matter. The fact that the guy was talking about seriously trying to have sex with someone THAT WASN'T HIS WIFE is WRONG.

yeah it was wrong but not cheating, jesus what tarah told us the dude has just been chatting chicks up on the internet. wrong but not cheating

At 8/10/12 03:48 PM, Bees wrote: cmon tony it's already been established throughout the years you've been here that you're basically a testosterone fueled grunt whose first and only option is to punch something/nuke it then ask questions after it admits america is the greatest country in the world

that has nothing to do with this thread keep the personal attacks on low I admit I did it and for that I apologize

if your slut of a wife was doing what she does best (being a dumb whore) and chatting up other dudes while you're married which, according to this thread, is some sort of divine bond

not married plus talking is different from actually DOING IT. and marriage is hardly a divine bond anymore all with it being sullied.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 04:33 PM Reply

There are so many grey areas, not everyone sees things the same way. That's why not everyone is compatible with everyone.

I will agree that this guy is a douchewad though.

From what you've given us I wouldn't call it emotional cheating. He wasn't emotionally invested in you, it really sounds like he just wants to get his dick wet.

In a mature/long-running relationship I would think true emotional cheating is more damaging than physical cheating.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 04:45 PM Reply

bees for King, Tony-DarkGrave for Joker.

The ONLY reason it wasn't cheating, or wait I forgot to bold.

The reason it wasn't cheating was only because Tarah did not want to exchange nudes/meet him for sex. Just because she didn't actually do the dirty with the guy does not make the guy innocent. Not in the slightest. He still wanted to, tried to, hence he was in the wrong and Tarah was right for telling her wife (who'd want to know) exactly what he tried to do with her.

You're really letting your American users down you know. Cause if you're the typical American then I weep for your nation.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 04:54 PM Reply

Once again it depends on the person. What is cheating with you someone else will be okay with.

Personal example. A friend of ours was told by his girlfriend that she makes out with girls when she goes out and he's not there. This to us is cheating, but to him it is okay because it is with girls.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 05:14 PM Reply

You did the right thing. If it were me, I'd want to know so that way I'd get out of that marriage ASAP and not waste anymore of my time with that scumbag.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 05:16 PM Reply

At 8/8/12 06:52 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote: If you were cheated on, would you want someone to tell you? Or rather not know unless your significant other told you?

I would want to know if my GF was cheating on me. If I find out, I'll drop her like a hot potato.

Am I a total cunt for letting his wife know what janky shit he'd been doing?

Nope. It would be better if she could find out what he had been doing sooner than later. There's a joke I've heard that says "A man can't keep secrets from his wife." I can't disagree with that.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 07:11 PM Reply

I'd say attempting to cheat and only failing because your advances were spurned is nearly the exact same level as run of the mill cheating


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 08:57 PM Reply

At 8/10/12 08:33 PM, ScaryPicnic wrote: 6 bloody pages

really

i can't believe people have a problem with this

I've only seen Xenomit have an actual problem with it.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 10th, 2012 @ 11:59 PM Reply

At 8/8/12 06:52 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote: Am I a total cunt for letting his wife know what janky shit he'd been doing?

Nah. I think cheating's one of the worst things you can do to someone. If you want to be in a relationship then act like it and give your partner the time, honesty and respect they deserve. If you don't, end it. There is no good reason or justification for cheating and my respect for anyone who does it instantly plummets. Everyone has the right to know if their partner isn't holding up their end of the relationship, otherwise who knows how long they'll keep living the lie?

I fully support what you did.


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