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I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 06:52 AM Reply

I often make friends on Twitter but for awhile one was a guy that would often flirt with me, make suggestive remarks, offer dick pictures, basically mention how if he ever came out to Cali he'd take me out and say how he'd want to bang me (who'd want to do that, gross I know)

I honestly just laughed it off or ignored it. Until today, he found me through a mutual twitter friend we had on Facebook. I looked at his profile and it said he was married.

I basically ousted him on his Facebook wall. Within a couple minutes, his wife sent me a message asking who I was so I told her what her husband had been saying the past couple months not only to me but our mutual twitter friend. It was all emotional cheating but he had been attempting to physically cheat with both of us.

But what I've noticed is, alot of people feel it's wrong to oust a cheater and you're suppose to just ignore it. But I have tons of disdain for cheaters.

If you were cheated on, would you want someone to tell you? Or rather not know unless your significant other told you?

Am I a total cunt for letting his wife know what janky shit he'd been doing?


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 06:57 AM Reply

I would be furious if my hoe was cheating on me

actually I would be very apathetic about it because I'm a beta loser

in fact I'll never get a girlfriend

not with that attitude I won't but seriously I just won't

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 06:57 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 06:52 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote: Am I a total cunt for letting his wife know what janky shit he'd been doing?

No. You done the right thing.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 06:59 AM Reply

Tarah, only you can decide if you did the right thing. Opinions from people like us are meaningless. We're probably just going to say shit like "LOL U PROLLY SHOULDA CHEATED ON THAT DOOD"

But with that said, I think you did the right thing. The cheating thing was probably going to be discovered anyways, so you might have just saved them the time of living a lie.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 07:14 AM Reply

Well, did the wife seem upset that you ousted her husband or did she seem indifferent to the whole thing? If it was the latter, the couple could be into pseudo manage a trois and being found out could get them off. I'm not saying this is the case, but things hardly are ever simple.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 07:25 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 07:14 AM, knightsofthecircle wrote: Well, did the wife seem upset that you ousted her husband or did she seem indifferent to the whole thing?

Ironically, she responded with, "I appreciate you telling me, however, I knew about the crap he was doing. We've been in marital counseling for the past 5 months."

She asked when was the last time he talked to me and the other girl, I told her along with some unwarrented advice.

Last thing she said was, "Thank you for bringing it to my attention, it will be handled."
After that, she blocked me :S


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 07:29 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 07:25 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote:
At 8/8/12 07:14 AM, knightsofthecircle wrote: Well, did the wife seem upset that you ousted her husband or did she seem indifferent to the whole thing?
Ironically, she responded with, "I appreciate you telling me, however, I knew about the crap he was doing. We've been in marital counseling for the past 5 months."

She asked when was the last time he talked to me and the other girl, I told her along with some unwarrented advice.

Last thing she said was, "Thank you for bringing it to my attention, it will be handled."
After that, she blocked me :S

Hmm, so the plot thickens. If they're in marriage counseling they might be taking a break from each other in order to strengthen their marriage, but that's just a hunch.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 07:30 AM Reply

Good thing she blocked you, last thing you want is to get more involved. At this point they have to work things out, or make them worse who knows. At this point just move on and hope for the best (if you believe in that kind of stuff).


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 07:33 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 06:52 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote:
Am I a total cunt for letting his wife know what janky shit he'd been doing?

opinions vary on the subject, but i don't think so. the guy's married, he oughta know better than that. marriage isn't really my thing, but those who go through with it should have the decency to stick to the person they swear by, and to fuck it up with some internet shit is just gross, man =/..
now, if this was a girlfriend or something, and he WASN'T married, then yeah, i would call you out on being an absolute righteous cunt.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 07:34 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 07:25 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote: After that, she blocked me :S

Whoa. Did she block you because of the unwarranted advice? Or did she block you because she felt she had enough information?
If it's the latter, then I don't know whether their marriage will last.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 07:45 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 07:33 AM, Cool-Points wrote: now, if this was a girlfriend or something, and he WASN'T married, then yeah, i would call you out on being an absolute righteous cunt.

I never understood the different between cheating varying on whether marriage or relationship. If you're choosing to be with someone, whether emotionally or legally, should cheating be wrong?

At 8/8/12 07:34 AM, Gimmick wrote: Whoa. Did she block you because of the unwarranted advice? Or did she block you because she felt she had enough information?
If it's the latter, then I don't know whether their marriage will last.

I don't know, she basically just "Thank you for bringing it to my attention, it will be handled." And blocked me after that. It could of been both. I thought what she said sounded weird though. Like an automated computer response.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 07:56 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 06:52 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote: Am I a total cunt for letting his wife know what janky shit he'd been doing?

No. He deserved it. She didn't deserve it, but she didn't deserve to be with a guy who wanted to cheat on her either.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 08:08 AM Reply

Wow, you're a bitch.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 08:20 AM Reply

It could have been his intention. While exposing the truth is upmost, beguiling him to meet you and invite the wife to watch the whole scene and interfere would have caused him more pain.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 08:53 AM Reply

That guy's an idiot, NEVER use the internet if you're gonna cheat.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 09:39 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 07:45 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote:
I don't know, she basically just "Thank you for bringing it to my attention, it will be handled." And blocked me after that. It could of been both. I thought what she said sounded weird though. Like an automated computer response.

I believe she would've appreciated it more if she just didn't know about it, but it's such an automated response because she didn't want to be rude to you. She probably blocked you because she didn't want to hear any more hurtful details from your loose lips, you big marriage ruining meanie.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 11:25 AM Reply

I'd most want my girlfriend to tell me if she was cheating (and existed) but sometimes you got to oust them if they won't tell.
A relationship full of dishonesty isn't a real relationship.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 11:34 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 06:52 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote: Am I a total cunt for letting his wife know what janky shit he'd been doing?

For breaking up a marriage by coming out with the truth. No because he would've done it with someone else eventually.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 11:38 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 06:57 AM, gamejunkie wrote:
At 8/8/12 06:52 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote: Am I a total cunt for letting his wife know what janky shit he'd been doing?
No. You done the right thing.

I disagree, it shouldn't be up to you to decide how another person spends his time, or runs his relationships


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 11:41 AM Reply

It was really none of your business.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 11:43 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 11:25 AM, Manly-Chicken wrote: I'd most want my girlfriend to tell me if she was cheating (and existed) but sometimes you got to oust them if they won't tell.
A relationship full of dishonesty isn't a real relationship.

So that means you get to come in and stop it?


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 11:50 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 11:43 AM, Xenomit wrote: So that means you get to come in and stop it?

Fine. I'll stop ours.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 11:50 AM Reply

Does talking to someone online count as cheating?


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 11:50 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 06:52 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote:

id want to be told,
a cheater is only doing something because they are not happy in the situation they are in and trying to wiggle in a situation that they feel is oppressing them,

maybe they did not have sex in a while, or they are tired of not having the effection that they craveo ut of their significant other...

while the cheater is directly hurting the person that he has commited to, to the cheater it is alright because the person that he has commited to is, to them... cheating on the cheater, not holding up their end of the relationship

so while the cheater is being hurt, his or her actions will eventually lead to hopefully more happiness for both the cheater and the significant other
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i would want to be told, so i can start to take the next steps i should
if ousting a cheater wrong?
no... never... it only speeds things along.

i say you did the right thing


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 11:51 AM Reply

If you were laughing it off or ignoring it then how was he cheating? That's like seeing a partner get mad at you, try to get back by picking up someone at the bar while you're there, get rejected by everyone. You'd be mad at them for cheating?

All I am saying is with what you gave us he was not cheating unless you are lying about laughing it off or ignoring his advances.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 11:52 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 06:52 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote: If you were cheated on, would you want someone to tell you? Or rather not know unless your significant other told you?

Ultimately, I would want to know that they cheated, preferably, I would like it if my significant other told me rather than me finding out through other means.

Am I a total cunt for letting his wife know what janky shit he'd been doing?

No, you are perfectly fine, don't worry about it. He shouldn't have been cheating, he's in the wrong. Don't let the attitude of the girlfriend bother you.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 11:59 AM Reply

At 8/8/12 08:52 AM, Travis wrote: I feel like what people do is their own business and the last thing you should do is interfere.

You're one to be fucking talking.

OP did the right thing, but should stay out from now on until the wounds heal. I would block the man on Twitter too.

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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 12:12 PM Reply

You did the right thing.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 12:14 PM Reply

If someone was cheating on me, then I would most certainly want someone to tell me about it. That's probably the worst thing you can do to a spouse, unless of course, you were beat up or tortured by them, or any other kind of illegal activity. I doubt it's against the law to cheat, just not something you'd want to do.


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Response to I Ousted a Cheater Aug. 8th, 2012 @ 12:27 PM Reply

At 8/8/12 11:41 AM, CritcalOne wrote: It was really none of your business.

wouldn't it have become her business when the guy started talking to her he involved her and i think that she did the right thing.