At 7/27/12 04:14 PM, streetbackguy wrote:
So yeah, this is actually a serious thread this time so hush you trolls.
If you have been feeling seriously depressed, then you should get professional help; coming to the internet for advice, let alone the NG's BBS, is not recommended.
Having said that, I think I can help you. Feel free to PM me if you want more personalized advice or just need someone to talk to.
I have been getting a shit-ton of suicidal thoughts lately, and mostly because I think I'm not going anywhere in life. I'm 18 and have only ever had two relationships, both long distance with girls from America while I'm in Britain, I've never had a job and the only one I was able to get was a voluntary unpaid job, I hate myself as in looks, abilities, weight and so forth, etc.
Let's address one thing at a time. You don't think you're going anywhere in life? Why? Judging by your profile here on NG's, you seem rather intelligent and motivated - these two qualities alone are enough to take you somewhere in life. You mentioned you're eighteen years old; do you have plans for college? Whether or not you plan to continue your education after high school will greatly impact the rest of your life. That's not to say that you need to go to college, though; what matters is that you have a career goal, and a plan on how you're going to achieve it.
You're eighteen and have only had two relationships? OH MY GOD!?!?
Who cares? Keep on truckin', dude... eventually, you'll find someone perfect, and when you do, you'll enjoy it even more. If you have a problem with your looks then do something about it. If you're fat, then start eating healthy and working out. If you have bad acne, get some expensive face wash and take care of that shit. If you're unhappy with something, you need to do something about it; otherwise, things will never change.
The job thing ties back into what I said about having a goal as well as a plan. If you want any more advice on this, feel free to drop me a PM and I'll get back to you as soon as I can.
Can I ask if any of you members have, how have you dealt with these thoughts of suicide in the past? I don't want to carry on feeling like this...
When I was your age, I got depressed a lot. The worst part was I didn't even have a reason to be depressed; I loved my life and knew it was just going to keep getting better, so there was no reason for me to feel as shitty as I did. Eventually, I went to the doctor and got prescribed anti-depressants. I stayed on them for a couple years; they helped me wake up in the morning and go on with my day, but they were far from being the long term remedy I hoped they would be.
Now a days, I'm completely off anti depressants and I feel great. I don't view the time I spent taking them as wasteful, but they weren't entirely necessary - I was merely sifting through the duds.
So how did I climb out of my depression, you ask?
A combination of meditation, patience, and "faking it." Ignore your depression, and pretend that you are happy. Go out with friends more often. Don't sit around all day. Change up your routine to involve more activities and social interactions. This shit works, trust me.
I was trying to find the essay I wrote when I was a freshman in college on how I beat my teenage depression with the use of meditation. If I locate it, I will let you know; I think it can be of help.
Regardless, send me a PM if you want to talk about anything.
Hope you feel better.