At 7/19/12 12:44 PM, Ozcar wrote:
Oh God she 's awesome... she's cute, a nice girl and we can talk about anything... But she's my cousin god damn!
And since she had a problem with her parents she's been living in my place. These 2 weeks I've been so close to hell and heaven :3
OK, SO this is a bit of an issue, and believe it or not, wiips36 nailed it, square on the head. There's going to be people that think you are absolutely atrocious for your interest in your cousin, AND there's going to be people that YOU think are absolutely atrocious for their suggestions. Your issue, is that beyond all of the opinions, YOU have to develop your own judgement. Also, (and rather or not any of them will admit it...) there are posters out there that have "beyond platonic" attractions of some kind to near of kin. I'll admit it, I DO, and she is a female cousin, an extremely attractive one at that. Anyone can convince themselves that they KNOW what self-control and inhibition is, but it's up to YOU to prove it to YOURSELF. If you have to release sexual tension by pleasuring yourself to her, THEN DO IT. DO IT as much as you want or AS YOU NEED TO. When it boils down to it, you love your cousin as an inherent responsibility or otherwise, and mixed with the lust that you have for her, [the mix] can be extremely volatile. You are at a point in your relationship where you need, more than anything, to practice restraint. If you can manage to, than you guys can become closer than any sexual partners would ever be. Instead, use your sexual attraction to her as a ballast, a sort of boundry, if you will. Every time you catch yourself having sexual fantasies about her, go about yourself in a private manner, and find somewhere to relieve yourself, even if you're spending time with her. If you expose your feelings about her to her, you could completely obliterate your relationship, ESPECIALLY only if you THINK that you "know" that she has lusty feelings for you, and you really, REALLY don't want that. MORE IMPORTANTLY, DO FOR HER AS YOU WOULD DO FOR YOURSELF. If she tries to make a pass at you, allow her the opportunity to restrain herself, to allow her the same liberty that you would yourself. Speaking as someone who has immense experience on the topic, dude; I wish you the best of luck, really.