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Break up without breaking up? Jun. 24th, 2012 @ 07:51 PM Reply

If you decide the relationship is over after a girl hung up on her during an argument, is it really over? o_o

I mean I know I'm not calling her again, and I doubt she'll call me... but I'm not an expert on these things so, eh...


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 24th, 2012 @ 07:57 PM Reply

If none of you will call to apologize it's pretty much over.

But if she hung up because of something you said, then you should probably call her to apologize, if she doesn't answer your calls then don't bother. Move on and get back to the game


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 24th, 2012 @ 08:01 PM Reply

At 6/24/12 07:57 PM, weirdoo wrote: If none of you will call to apologize it's pretty much over.

But if she hung up because of something you said, then you should probably call her to apologize, if she doesn't answer your calls then don't bother. Move on and get back to the game

She got mad at be for being too quiet on the phone the other night. I told you today what was wrong (I think a relative in my family is dieing...) and she still choose to annoyed and frustrated. I told her I was still sorry and she hung up not too long after that.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 24th, 2012 @ 08:04 PM Reply

At 6/24/12 08:01 PM, JayTheWiz wrote: She got mad at be for being too quiet on the phone the other night. I told you today what was wrong (I think a relative in my family is dieing...) and she still choose to annoyed and frustrated. I told her I was still sorry and she hung up not too long after that.

She sounds like a bitch.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 24th, 2012 @ 08:09 PM Reply

Most likely not, arguments are healthy in a relationship because they help you grow, so yeah there will be arguments.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 24th, 2012 @ 08:12 PM Reply

I don't know about this one, OP.

My ex and I broke up like that. Then I felt shitty and after six months I called her and apologized, only to slowly remember why I hated her in the first place and we broke up again.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 24th, 2012 @ 08:15 PM Reply

At 6/24/12 08:12 PM, Morph94 wrote: I don't know about this one, OP.

My ex and I broke up like that. Then I felt shitty and after six months I called her and apologized, only to slowly remember why I hated her in the first place and we broke up again.

Yesh...sounds like that got nasty.

Me and her have came close to breaking up a few times before, but she either guilt trips me into forgiving her or I already felt so guilty that I got back with her. We've been going out for a year and six months now, with only a week long break... Even then we still talked every day.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 24th, 2012 @ 08:23 PM Reply

Shoot her a text saying it's over.

That's it. That's all you need to do.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 24th, 2012 @ 11:11 PM Reply

At 6/24/12 07:51 PM, JayTheWiz wrote: If you decide the relationship is over after a girl hung up on her during an argument, is it really over? o_o

I mean I know I'm not calling her again, and I doubt she'll call me... but I'm not an expert on these things so, eh...

well if you care youll call.

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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 24th, 2012 @ 11:39 PM Reply

At 6/24/12 08:23 PM, RacistBassist wrote: Shoot her a text saying it's over.

That's it. That's all you need to do.

Text messaging regarding important relationship things is really lame. You need to speak either on the 'phone or in person.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 24th, 2012 @ 11:43 PM Reply

At 6/24/12 11:39 PM, jjjkuk wrote: Text messaging regarding important relationship things is really lame. You need to speak either on the 'phone or in person.

Don't listen to this. You don't owe them shit. It's a break up. Being in person doesn't change anything about it besides both parties being uncomfortable. And why bother with calling? All that's going to end up happening is either arguing, hanging up, crying, or, if you're really lucky, a friendly parting. None of which are worth the time considering a friendly leaving will not happen given the nature of your relationship.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 25th, 2012 @ 01:34 AM Reply

At 6/24/12 11:43 PM, RacistBassist wrote: Don't listen to this. You don't owe them shit. It's a break up. Being in person doesn't change anything about it besides both parties being uncomfortable. And why bother with calling? All that's going to end up happening is either arguing, hanging up, crying, or, if you're really lucky, a friendly parting. None of which are worth the time considering a friendly leaving will not happen given the nature of your relationship.

But you need to be honest with one another. Texting shows that you don't give a shit. You have your own opinions, but I like to have common courtesy, showing at least some kind of respect.

You seem very agressive about this. Did you go through the same thing?


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 25th, 2012 @ 01:42 AM Reply

At 6/24/12 07:51 PM, JayTheWiz wrote: If you decide the relationship is over after a girl hung up on her during an argument, is it really over? o_o

A relationship ends as soon as one person stops calling/contacting the other.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 25th, 2012 @ 02:26 AM Reply

At 6/24/12 11:39 PM, jjjkuk wrote:
At 6/24/12 08:23 PM, RacistBassist wrote: Shoot her a text saying it's over.

That's it. That's all you need to do.
Text messaging regarding important relationship things is really lame. You need to speak either on the 'phone or in person.

Normally I agree, but if what OP said is true she doesn't deserve that respect.

If it was just the two drifting apart, or no wrongs were done I would agree.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 25th, 2012 @ 03:53 AM Reply

At 6/24/12 07:57 PM, weirdoo wrote: If none of you will call to apologize it's pretty much over.

But if she hung up because of something you said, then you should probably call her to apologize, if she doesn't answer your calls then don't bother. Move on and get back to the game

Fuck that.

What are you? some kind of pussy?

If that bitch doesn't realize that she was being a cunt and calls you with an apology..... you sure as all hell don't call her and apologize.

This only shows weakness... and women want strong emotionless rocks for men.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 25th, 2012 @ 03:59 AM Reply

Things said during arguments are usually not intended. So, you should get confirmation before making a decision.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 25th, 2012 @ 05:35 PM Reply

Just an update for anyone who cares, she did call back last night but it was to bitch to me somemore and tell me how she's not going to forgive me. She didn't dump me, she just said she wasn't going to forgive me. =/ WTF...


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 25th, 2012 @ 05:38 PM Reply

At 6/25/12 05:35 PM, JayTheWiz wrote: Just an update for anyone who cares, she did call back last night but it was to bitch to me somemore and tell me how she's not going to forgive me. She didn't dump me, she just said she wasn't going to forgive me. =/ WTF...

Fuck that bitch, go fuck her best friend or sister.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 25th, 2012 @ 06:51 PM Reply

At 6/25/12 01:34 AM, jjjkuk wrote: But you need to be honest with one another. Texting shows that you don't give a shit. You have your own opinions, but I like to have common courtesy, showing at least some kind of respect.

Texting is completely honest. I would argue even more so, since you'll have the false cojones to say what you feel compared to being in person and trying to spare feelings. You're breaking up. Of course you don't give a shit. Unless there's some Dear John level of unfortunate circumstances, it's a break up from not wanting to be with the person.

You seem very agressive about this. Did you go through the same thing?

Nah, it's not me being aggressive. I just have a very colorful way of speaking.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 25th, 2012 @ 07:59 PM Reply

At 6/25/12 06:56 PM, Adio wrote:

Wow holy shit you are the biggest beta male on the planet.

Ummm... if you don't mind me asking... what exactly does that mean?


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 25th, 2012 @ 10:08 PM Reply

Its over you should go find another female. Makes wemen jealous all the time.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 25th, 2012 @ 10:09 PM Reply

Yes, it's called being friendzoned.


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 25th, 2012 @ 10:23 PM Reply

At 6/25/12 07:59 PM, JayTheWiz wrote:
At 6/25/12 06:56 PM, Adio wrote:

Wow holy shit you are the biggest beta male on the planet.
Ummm... if you don't mind me asking... what exactly does that mean?

It means that you should give up dating females and prepare your anus

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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 25th, 2012 @ 10:49 PM Reply

At 6/25/12 06:51 PM, RacistBassist wrote: Texting is completely honest. I would argue even more so, since you'll have the false cojones to say what you feel compared to being in person and trying to spare feelings. You're breaking up. Of course you don't give a shit. Unless there's some Dear John level of unfortunate circumstances, it's a break up from not wanting to be with the person

I just think that it's cowardly to not be able to be honest about your feelings in person. It's even more cowardly to not be able to break up in person.

Generally breaking up over one fight is retarded but after reading what the fight was about I think that she's a bitch, so just do it.

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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 26th, 2012 @ 01:21 AM Reply

At 6/25/12 06:51 PM, RacistBassist wrote: Texting is completely honest. I would argue even more so, since you'll have the false cojones to say what you feel compared to being in person and trying to spare feelings.

If you honestly want to end it, you'll acknowledge the decision and do it. If you hesitate, you're just naturally trying to be respectful because your partner is right there; the feelings are present and real.

You're breaking up. Of course you don't give a shit.

You do if you want to contact the person and have a mutual agreement that it's over. To each his own.

OP, your situation is looking very grim. Have there been any times recently where she hasn't been aggressive towards you? If it has been all miserable so far and there is no sign in the near future of restoring your relationship, it would be best to end it. Ask yourself and really think about it: do you really love her?


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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 26th, 2012 @ 01:24 AM Reply

At 6/24/12 08:01 PM, JayTheWiz wrote:
She got mad at be for being too quiet on the phone the other night. I told you today what was wrong (I think a relative in my family is dieing...) and she still choose to annoyed and frustrated. I told her I was still sorry and she hung up not too long after that.

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Response to Break up without breaking up? Jun. 26th, 2012 @ 01:24 AM Reply

At 6/26/12 01:21 AM, jjjkuk wrote:
OP, your situation is looking very grim. Have there been any times recently where she hasn't been aggressive towards you? If it has been all miserable so far and there is no sign in the near future of restoring your relationship, it would be best to end it. Ask yourself and really think about it: do you really love her?

This. But if you're not the type to 'love' your partner every waking moment, think 'Is it worth trying to push it toward love.'