My girlfriend is now my abusive ex.

[davohsaurus]

And I'm a sad case of Stockholm Syndrome.

I'm incredibly drunk and high. Am I dealing with this the right way?

[apocalypseven]

At 6/24/12 04:59 PM, davohsaurus wrote: And I'm a sad case of Stockholm Syndrome.

I'm incredibly drunk and high. Am I dealing with this the right way?

can you be more specific

[botbrigade]

Anything that starts or ends with "incredibly drunk or high" is not handling it the right way.

[FanofFulp]

nooooooooooooooooooobody cares

[Jester]

If you realize she's abusive but don't leave it's not Stockholm syndrome, it's doesn't have the balls to leave syndrome.

[davohsaurus]

At 6/24/12 05:00 PM, apocalypseven wrote:

At 6/24/12 04:59 PM, davohsaurus wrote: And I'm a sad case of Stockholm Syndrome.

I'm incredibly drunk and high. Am I dealing with this the right way?

can you be more specific

I dated this girl for a year and 3-4 months. I moved in with her a few hundred miles away from my hometown to Houston where everything was great for a really long time.

Then she got pregnant, started getting angry all the time, constantly trying to force me to join the military (which I'm anti-military and she knows that. also a) would never get to see my family and b) don't want to be the father that died when his kid was still a baby.) yada yada she gets more pissed and starts throwing things at me and hitting me when she gets angry.

We end up losing it. My car gets stolen. Lose both our jobs. All in the same week.

My family offered to house us until we got back on our feet so we moved in for a little while, she found a job since she still had her car and I was still saving every dime I had to get a car so I could obtain a job.

We move to Corinth for a little bit in a nice house with some shitty ass room mates where all I was ever greeted with is "do you have a job yet?" While the closest place to work was about 10 miles away and no bus routes.

This goes on for a while, I finally leave due to the stress but stay with her asking her just to calm down before I come back.

She did, I moved back in, and shit started really sucking.

Pretty much I was constantly verbally assulted for not having a job (like calling me a failure and a fuck up for getting my car stolen and losing my job) and when I did things for her wrong, she'd slap me. This goes on for a while and I finally have to leave again.

I break up with her on her birthday because she invited a guy over that she used to have a crush on to a party that I planned for her and now wasn't even invited to.

She's beaten me with cheese blocks, keys, a remote, shoes, her purse. I have multiple scars from all of these.

Yet I still want to be with the bitch.

[RacistBassist]

Get a camera. Record her slapping you. The moment she slaps you fucking deck her in the face. You now have proof she strikes you, and that what you did was self defense.

[davohsaurus]

At 6/24/12 05:15 PM, RacistBassist wrote: Get a camera. Record her slapping you. The moment she slaps you fucking deck her in the face. You now have proof she strikes you, and that what you did was self defense.

There actually was a night where a security guard saw her slapping the shit out of me and threw us out of the club we were at. This is the same night she beat me with keys.

When she actually started beating me with the keys it actually did get to the point where I had to react to stop her. She pushed me into the corner of a bus stop at 2 am and kept hitting harder and harder and it actually started to cut my face open. I ended up slapping her to where it knocked her off balance enough for me to get out of the corner and talk her down from trying to stab me with the keys.

She remembers none of this as she was piss ass drunk.

And I still feel like complete and total shit for slapping her.

[RacistBassist]

At 6/24/12 05:21 PM, davohsaurus wrote: There actually was a night where a security guard saw her slapping the shit out of me and threw us out of the club we were at. This is the same night she beat me with keys.

When she actually started beating me with the keys it actually did get to the point where I had to react to stop her. She pushed me into the corner of a bus stop at 2 am and kept hitting harder and harder and it actually started to cut my face open. I ended up slapping her to where it knocked her off balance enough for me to get out of the corner and talk her down from trying to stab me with the keys.

You should have either called the cops or beat the shit out of her. Abusers can go fuck themselves.

She remembers none of this as she was piss ass drunk.

And I still feel like complete and total shit for slapping her.

You're fucking sexist dude. Treat women as equals. They come at you, you rectify that shit real quick.

[davohsaurus]

At 6/24/12 05:19 PM, Tramps wrote:

At 6/24/12 05:13 PM, davohsaurus wrote: She's beaten me with cheese blocks,

It was a sad story until this.

Seriously sucks though, man. Ever thought that she's the problem here? I'm only getting your side of the story, but from the looks of things, losing your job and your car and having to save up every dime to be able to get back up on your feet is hard enough without some girl telling you that you're a fuck up. Leave her, get your life sorted out and then go back when you're stable again, if you want to go back. It makes it more complicated that you have a kid, but just move out and do your own thing, seeing the kid when you can (if it's born yet, I don't know if it is). Can't stress enough that you should try and stay away from her as much as possible.

One thing I taught myself when really wanting to get back with someone when I knew the relationship was bad is that the wanting is the hardest part. You know that when/if you get back together, it'll be good for a short while and then the reasons you left in the first place would start surfacing again. Just get your head sorted out before you do anything stupid.

Pretty much what fucked up things I did that she will tell you if she was here:
1) I messaged some old friends of mine on facebook (both girls) planned to eat dinner with them and catch up (before we started dating) and me being a man of my word was still going take them out and have fun after we started going out. I feel that was incredibly fucked up of me but I was raised to be at least some what of a gentlemen.

2) I broke up with her on her birthday. (previously explained.)

3) I left. Twice. (previously explained.)

4) I "wasn't man enough to own up to being the farther of my child" despite she texted me at work saying she wanted an abortion so she could get her body back and start drinking again.

Also no she's not a high schooler, she's 25. I'm 20.

[davohsaurus]

At 6/24/12 05:27 PM, davohsaurus wrote:

At 6/24/12 05:19 PM, Tramps wrote:

At 6/24/12 05:13 PM, davohsaurus wrote:

lots of shit.

oh and
5) I was a mooch. I didn't have any work experience before we started dating so finding a job was still difficult but I ended up working 2 jobs for a while to make her happy. One was office depot (Which I fucking quit as soon as I could.) And Aaron brothers up until I lost my car. While living in corinth, yes she paid all the (ONE) bills we had but I was actively looking for a job and selling things online.

[botbrigade]

She's beaten me with cheese blocks, keys, a remote, shoes, her purse. I have multiple scars from all of these.

Yet I still want to be with the bitch.

Then you really are a loser. Get a job and get your shit straight lol. Geez.

[apocalypseven]

At 6/24/12 05:13 PM, davohsaurus wrote:

I moved in with her a few hundred miles away from my hometown to Houston where everything was great for a really long time.

That is how it starts.

would never get to see my family

She was isolating you.

My family offered to house us until we got back on our feet so we moved in for a little while

That was nice of them.

We move to Corinth for a little bit in a nice house with some shitty ass room mates where all I was ever greeted with is "do you have a job yet?" While the closest place to work was about 10 miles away and no bus routes.

Horrible move.

This goes on for a while, I finally leave due to the stress but stay with her asking her just to calm down before I come back.

She did, I moved back in, and shit started really sucking.

Horrible move again.

Pretty much I was constantly verbally assulted for not having a job (like calling me a failure and a fuck up for getting my car stolen and losing my job) and when I did things for her wrong, she'd slap me. This goes on for a while and I finally have to leave again.

She was degrading you and lowering your self worth.

I break up with her on her birthday because she invited a guy over that she used to have a crush on to a party that I planned for her and now wasn't even invited to.

She's beaten me with cheese blocks, keys, a remote, shoes, her purse. I have multiple scars from all of these.

Indeed, I have had a similar experience.

Yet I still want to be with the bitch.

Yes, its just an emotional attachment, it happens.

[saltovergray]

I'm 16, and barely have any experience with this sort of stuff.

But from what you say, it's really best for you to leave. No matter how much you want her, she appears to be treating you like shit, and physically harming you should be above your tolerance level. There are others girls, others which i'm willing to bet will not hurt you so, if you look for them.

[apocalypseven]

At 6/24/12 05:34 PM, SaltshakerClock wrote: I'm 16, and barely have any experience with this sort of stuff.

But from what you say, it's really best for you to leave.

OK, so you say you have no experience, then your giving him advice, go fuck off, if he wants to stay with her, he can.

[Richard]

At 6/24/12 05:36 PM, apocalypseven wrote:

At 6/24/12 05:34 PM, SaltshakerClock wrote: I'm 16, and barely have any experience with this sort of stuff.

But from what you say, it's really best for you to leave.

OK, so you say you have no experience, then your giving him advice, go fuck off, if he wants to stay with her, he can.

Ya know, for claiming to be an 18 year old, you sure do post like you're a 16 year old high school drop out.

[apocalypseven]

At 6/24/12 05:49 PM, DickBuns wrote:

Ya know, for claiming to be an 18 year old, you sure do post like you're a 16 year old high school drop out.

Age does not matter, I have had the same experience as him to a fucking tee.

[BumFodder]

Then just leave her, its obvious its never going to work out again.

[Nebula]

Choke her. She's just gonna end up fucked anyway.

[Schizo-Sephy]

Every so often I get a text from my ex calling me names...
Oh well.

[Yert]

wow you sound like a bitch

[Sensationalism]

A real woman would support her man during a time like that, not tear him down. You have to be strong and take care of yourself. When you're done healing yourself, go find an amazing woman that will make this last relationship seem like a hazy nightmare.
Don't let someone else control and ruin you. You deserve better than that, even if you think you don't. And you will be able to find someone again. Someone much better. Don't let that fear or anything hold you back from moving on and taking care of YOU.

At 6/24/12 05:27 PM, davohsaurus wrote: Pretty much what fucked up things I did that she will tell you if she was here:
1) I messaged some old friends of mine on facebook (both girls) planned to eat dinner with them and catch up (before we started dating) and me being a man of my word was still going take them out and have fun after we started going out. I feel that was incredibly fucked up of me but I was raised to be at least some what of a gentlemen.

I don't know what is with some of you guys. But the actual gentlemanly thing to do would be to tell the two girls you're canceling your date with them because you got a girlfriend. OR invite your girlfriend along and let the other girls know you'll be bringing her.

[davohsaurus]

At 6/24/12 06:52 PM, Sensationalism wrote:
I don't know what is with some of you guys. But the actual gentlemanly thing to do would be to tell the two girls you're canceling your date with them because you got a girlfriend. OR invite your girlfriend along and let the other girls know you'll be bringing her.

I offered that. Thats when she flipped.

[DeAxiom]

BEAT UP BY GIRL uZ A SMAC-BITCH! hA! DUMB ASS BITCH!

[Richard]

At 6/24/12 06:06 PM, apocalypseven wrote:

At 6/24/12 05:49 PM, DickBuns wrote:

Ya know, for claiming to be an 18 year old, you sure do post like you're a 16 year old high school drop out.

Age does not matter, I have had the same experience as him to a fucking tee.

Oh, no wonder why you're fucked up then. Instead of leaving a blatantly abusive and damaging relationship, you stuck around and continued to think that you were someone else's bitch. You had all confidence driven from you, and you're not much other than a shell of a person.

Thanks for clearing that up kiddo.

[Sensationalism]

At 6/24/12 07:08 PM, DickBuns wrote:

At 6/24/12 06:06 PM, apocalypseven wrote:

Oh, no wonder why you're fucked up then. Instead of leaving a blatantly abusive and damaging relationship, you stuck around and continued to think that you were someone else's bitch. You had all confidence driven from you, and you're not much other than a shell of a person.

Thanks for clearing that up kiddo.

So many women do just that all the time. It's sad and really hard to understand why they don't just get out. But I'm sure it isn't easy for quite a few reasons.

[apocalypseven]

At 6/24/12 07:08 PM, DickBuns wrote:

Oh, no wonder why you're fucked up then. Instead of leaving a blatantly abusive and damaging relationship, you stuck around and continued to think that you were someone else's bitch. You had all confidence driven from you, and you're not much other than a shell of a person.

Correct sir, this was all intentional on my part, I won't state the reasons, but it was beneficial towards me in the long run.

[Gario]

Stay the hell away from that woman, as she is quite frankly a destructive person. Domestic violence should never, ever be tolerated. It's awful that you had a kid in the middle of it, as I don't think there is anything that you can do to help the child - the courts will move in her favor. At this point just hope she doesn't come after you looking for child support, as that'll pretty much financially cripple you for the rest of your life.

Find work, move forward and get involved in events that you enjoy. You will find someone else who is less destructive in time if you keep your eye out, I guarantee it.

[Pride]

At 6/24/12 05:13 PM, davohsaurus wrote: Yet I still want to be with the bitch.

From your story, I have no idea why you'd want to put yourself in that kind of situation. Obviously, if you still want to be with her then there isn't much anyone here can say to dissuade you.

My only advise would be to evaluate why you want to stay with her. From what you're telling me it doesn't really sound like she wants to raise a family or stay with you, it may be time to move on.

Or else you can always try to get on the Dr. Phil show, this would make a good episode.

[apocalypseven]

Will you guys stop telling him what to do, you have no right to do that, its not your girlfriend.