At 5/13/12 05:53 AM, Gagsy wrote:
I don't really think so personally. The only real reason people seemed to stay together more many years ago is due to stricter outlooks on that kind of thing.
As lovely as the idea of spending the rest of your life with one person is, I think its absurd to think it will truly make you happy once you're different people 20-30 years later.
Maybe my belief has nothing to do with any sort of human nature and is completely based on personal experiences.
I know plenty of people that would agree with you, especially ones who have experienced divorce in their family.
My grandma was not my grandpa's first wife but I'm sure if they had met sooner she would have been. He didn't find the right woman until he found her. And they were a great couple. They had their problems but they stuck together. When my grandpa got sick, my grandma took such good care of him, even leaving her job. And you could tell they both really loved each other, even though they'd been together so long.
My parents too are still totally in love and have eyes for only each other.
Not even any of my aunts or uncles have divorced. They all found someone to spend the rest of their lives with.
I'm not saying this to make anyone feel bad. I'm just saying maybe I'm wrong about it being a natural human response to seek one mate. Maybe I just think that because that's all I've really experienced.
I agree that people are always changing but I like to think you can grow together. Guess I'm just romantic/lovey dovey.