At 4/22/12 11:46 PM, MiloBased wrote:
At 4/22/12 11:37 PM, Winrar1337 wrote:
At 4/22/12 11:27 PM, MiloBased wrote:
Well, I don't believe he meant to imply that people should just ask strangers for sex. Just that when people do ask for sex, they should be direct. I would also prefer getting to know a person.Who's to know when someone is asking for sex? If he's talking about himself, that sounds like a personal problem. Anyone not asking directly for sex is using their brain because they could damage a potentially sexual relationship with a person that would like to get to know someone first.
He did include two examples for "Perfect World," one in which the girl says yes and one in which she says no, as well as saying "If the girl says no, then she says no," so he's not saying everyone should just agree to have sex when asked for it.Again, it's not like there aren't people who do this. They're usually the more outgoing, rave, maybe into drugs type of person. People not like that like to get to know a person. It's preference.
Winrar1337 got it right. I am not saying that we should simply ask strangers for sex. This is talking about when you already know someone. Usually, when a lot of flirting has happened, often or not, directly asking for sex, or even when there is a good friendship both curious about sex, suddenly destroys the chances of obtaining it.
I had a girl-friend last year. We got very close. I indirectly mentioned sex, used the word, but didnt imply or say we should have it. It was something indirect, but yet we got interested. What happened was as it got more and more direct, because I just took it more directly, she backed off, whereas when I was being more indirect, she was interested.
Lets say you are dating someone, its your 10th date. Even by then, 90% of guys probably will never ask directly to go have sex. Girls always want to be taken to boys' homes for other purposes, and then when sex is brought up, well it just happened it wasn't intentional. Shit like that is hoax, girls shouldnt buy into that, of course he wants sex, and of course she wants it. They should just get it over with and do it. A direct approach doesnt mean all he cares about is sex, it usually means, "lets get sex out of the way". Boys want to secure sex, and girls are picky about who they have it with, but to masquerade around fucking pisses me off.
Ive learned that today, its really hard for me to get anyone to be a very close girlfirend unless I spend a LOT of time with her first, and then nonchalantly ask her to "hang out". Then it has to happen for a while before I reel her in.
Unless its magically easy to give a girl ur number at the supermarket, I often imagine that to be more easier and more direct, and less hassle.
Regardless, my motives and for most boys to have a girlfriend is 1.) Companion of other sex 2.) Sex
We care more about the actual girl and hanging out with her(if she isnt a slut), but we want sex also just as bad.
I dont think this can go anywhere though.
Im currently in a shitty position. Just moved, no school, no job, no friends. These together really make it hard.