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Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:06 PM Reply

As an atheist that is...

My close friends know and they don't really give a hoot either way, but I don't know how my family would take this news. My parents aren't the most religious people and we don't go to church, but my whole family is indeed Christian. I have been pretending to be as well just to make things easier, such as taking Bible classes and actually doing the work and so on and so on.

I could just keep doing this to they all die and do the same with my girlfriends as well like I have been. But sometimes it annoys me when they talk about God or mention "the Bible says..." and I just have to nod and agree. I'll talk to my mother about things and every once and while she'll say "I think that is what God wants" and I'll just die on the inside.

My mother is normally cool about most things I do or think. But, I do have a feeling that her and the rest of my family will flip their shit and try to save my soul if I do this. That is the bad side, but on the good side I won't have to feel like I am a liar.

What would you guys do? Have any of gone through this?


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:13 PM Reply

You can come out as an atheist if you want. But don't be high and mighty about it.

If someone is trying to convert you, just argue back, or leave.

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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:15 PM Reply

Run around the house yelling "WHERE'S YOUR GOD NOW!?"

Or convert to Judaism! Actually, no.. We don't want you anyway.

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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:16 PM Reply

Nobody gives a shit what you believe because other people's beliefs shouldn't matter.

Besides that, you just DID come out with your beliefs. You posted about it on the WORLD WIDE WEB. Everyone can see it now.


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:16 PM Reply

Remember that this is about YOU and what YOU want, not what everyone else wants out of you. It's their decision to overreact, and if that happens with your parents, do NOT argue back, especially with a loud voice or violence. It will only help in their belief that you are "troubled" and they'll try everything in their power to get you "on the right track", which is moving backwards for you. Discarding religion is more than just leaving behind a system of belief and faith, ideals which bring forth nothing but hatred for those outside of their own cult - it's about maturing into a more meritorious person. Your life is no longer led by others, it's led by you, so keep a calm and collected disposition as any person with a hint of sense in this world would


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:17 PM Reply

At 6/24/11 02:13 PM, Painbringer wrote: You can come out as an atheist if you want. But don't be high and mighty about it.

If someone is trying to convert you, just argue back, or leave.

I was going to go around preaching about my lack of beliefs. I am just kind of tired of hearing my grandma say things like "How can someone see a sunset and say there is no God" and me being all "lol i know rite".


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:17 PM Reply

I think I speak for all of us when I say that I love Cootie's topic titles.


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:18 PM Reply

Go for it, but from personal experience I know it doesn't end up well.

My Father is a Christian, and when I announced I was an Atheist to him, he essentially ignored me, calling it a lie, and saying I was just going through a phase.

It all depends on your family, but good luck.

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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:19 PM Reply

At 6/24/11 02:16 PM, EpicFail wrote: Nobody gives a shit what you believe because other people's beliefs shouldn't matter.

Besides that, you just DID come out with your beliefs. You posted about it on the WORLD WIDE WEB. Everyone can see it now.

Oh, I am pretty sure my family would give a shit what I believe. I agree that other peoples beliefs about things like this shouldn't matter but 95% of people don't see it the same way.

And yeah, I did tell you guys. But in this instance you people don't really matter as rude as that sounds. What you think or have to say doesn't change my life or effect me in any way. My family is another matter.


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:20 PM Reply

At 6/24/11 02:17 PM, Cootie wrote: I was going to go around preaching about my lack of beliefs.

I see this as a bad idea. You're bringing attention to yourself, and in the grand scheme of things, makes you no better than those you're trying to flee from - you're both extremists, on opposite sides of the spectrum. You want to be on the middle-ground, where you can easily disregard the BS that troubles you without so much as a snicker. Going around preaching your own ideals is the EXACT same thing as a Jehovas witness walking up to my door when I don't want him there in the first place.


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:22 PM Reply

At 6/24/11 02:20 PM, STEM wrote:
At 6/24/11 02:17 PM, Cootie wrote: I was going to go around preaching about my lack of beliefs.
I see this as a bad idea.

LOL TYPO. I meant to say I "wasn't". DISREGARD I SUCK DICKS.


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:27 PM Reply

At 6/24/11 02:22 PM, Cootie wrote: LOL TYPO. I meant to say I "wasn't". DISREGARD I SUCK DICKS.

haha good I was kind of worried. Anyway, good luck with your endeavors, your current home of Alabama almost ensures you'll run into a few troubles.


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:28 PM Reply

Do what you feel. If your mom is a cool as you say, I'm sure she won't mind if you tell her. If people give you a problem about it and start preaching to you, ignore it or just leave the conversation.


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:29 PM Reply

Just go along with it and pretend.

I went through until confirmation, because I got a shit load of money and it means I can get married in a Catholic church.

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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:36 PM Reply

Go ahead, it's your ass that's going to hell. If your parents can accept that than you can move on and be happy with your lives.


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:42 PM Reply

At 6/24/11 02:36 PM, MrSoxfan wrote: Go ahead, it's your ass that's going to hell. If your parents can accept that than you can move on and be happy with your lives.

Dey see me sinnin' dey hatin'.


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:43 PM Reply

When I said I didn't believe in God, my mom slapped me. Grandma just thought i was being an annoying immature brat and only said that to piss her off. Granted, at the moment I WAS angry and arguing, mom said "God will punish you" and I replied with there is no god. However, I DO believe in a god (not religious damn it, I just believe there is a God), and when I got into a religious DISCUSSION with my mom, even though after telling her I believe in a god she still said I was atheist, but surprisingly didn't kill me for it.
So i guess, It probably will go well, so long as you handle the situation well, don't do it in a rebellious out of spite way.

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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:48 PM Reply

Tell them after lighting a bible on fire.
See what that leads to.

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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:53 PM Reply

At 6/24/11 02:06 PM, Cootie wrote: As an atheist that is...

If you can kill a shark with a baseball bat, you can do anything.

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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 02:59 PM Reply

"Hey guys, I'm an atheist! Whew, that felt good."

"what ev brah"


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 03:02 PM Reply

At 6/24/11 02:59 PM, Corky-D wrote: "Hey guys, I'm an atheist! Whew, that felt good."

"what ev brah"

Sadly most people aren't that nonchalant, apparently an all loving god translates to "love him back or perish forever, I read it in a book once" for christians


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 03:03 PM Reply

Tell them god told you to be an atheist.


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 03:05 PM Reply

Don't do it until you are in college or even later. You should do it, but also not at a time or in a way where if you're family/friends/community flip their shit you could end up hurting. Look at Damon Fowler, his parents practically disowned him because he came out as an atheist and tried to stop his high school from having school sponsored prayers.


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 03:08 PM Reply

At 6/24/11 03:02 PM, STEM wrote:
At 6/24/11 02:59 PM, Corky-D wrote: "Hey guys, I'm an atheist! Whew, that felt good."

"what ev brah"
Sadly most people aren't that nonchalant, apparently an all loving god translates to "love him back or perish forever, I read it in a book once" for christians

Yes, but those hardcore believers aren't worth opening up to if they're just going to criticise you.

Reasoning doesn't work all that well either, it goes straight through their ears, or rather it doesn't even enter.


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 03:08 PM Reply

i don't think anyone will give a fuck

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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 03:17 PM Reply

Only you can decide whether this would be a good idea. If you believe your family is inclined to use violence as a method of discouraging you from maintaining your lack of faith, then maybe you should keep your beliefs, or lack thereof, to yourself until adulthood.


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 03:30 PM Reply

Dude, just be yourself. Don't "come out". Just "be".


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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 03:35 PM Reply

At 6/24/11 03:30 PM, Carmilla wrote: Dude, just be yourself. Don't "come out". Just "be".

Sounds like a commercial.

Damn it don't give them ideas!

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Response to Should I come out... Jun. 24th, 2011 @ 03:37 PM Reply

At 6/24/11 03:33 PM, Travis wrote: As your last act of christianity before becoming atheist... kill Fred Phelps.

That guy is a fucking psycho, srsly.


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