At 2/17/11 04:52 PM, AgroNurse wrote:
I'm pissed when the dumbass generation that raised us, has the fucking integrity, to call us stupid when they themselves are in the worst possible fucking relationship status... living with someone you hate 90% of the time coz your afraid or too weak to end it... I can not fathom the words to describe how I feel about that lol
Not all marriages end badly. Statistically, about fifty percent of them do which means that fifty percent of them don't. That's a lot more than you can say for high school relationships. How many teenage relationships actually last more than a couple years at most? Not fifty percent, that's for sure. The percentage is almost certainly a single digit number. Suffice to say, I think that you're underestimating the structural integrity of adults' relationships.
Generally, eenage relationships don't last for a number of reasons. First of all, the participants have no experience dealing with having any sort of partner, not to mention a long term partner. This leads to naive mistakes. Secondly, teenagers are flooded with hormones and their impulse control is limited. These are symptoms of the stage of neurological development that lasts from the beginning of puberty to around age 25. Thirdly, also as a result of their stage of neurological development, teenagers' capacity for empathy is lower than that of adults. That means that they don't have as great of an ability to understand the perspectives, positions and actions of their partners. Fourthly, the majority of teenagers are insecure on one level or another, so they have a greater propensity for jealously, over-protectiveness and/or issues with self-deprecation. Lastly, the majority of teenagers are dealing with identity issues, so emotionally, they're not in a good position to maintain a lasting relationship.
By the way, this is coming from someone of your age range, so the reason that I believe this is not because I have some sort of holier-than-thou mindset.