I was considering starting a support group for invisible illnesses (depression, anxiety, PTSD, etc.) but I found this club, and it seems to have more or less the same purpose, if only a broader one, so I figured I'd revive it.
I have depression.
I think a lot of people on this site may not seem like they have a mental disorder, but it's easy to hide when you're behind a screen. I wanted a place where I, and others, didn't have to hide, and could rely on each other for help. Hopefully this thread picks back up again.
I guess I'll start by talking about what compelled me to think about a thread like this in the first place.
I've been dealing with depression for most of my life, though it didn't get particularly bad until middle school. I never tried medication, as I never wanted to; I didn't want to have to rely on it, and I was afraid of losing control of my mind to drugs. I feel like they would turn me into someone who wasn't me and, though I didn't like me very much, I was afraid of that happening. So I just sort of stuck it out.
I've had thoughts of suicide as early as elementary school, though I've always been too afraid to attempt it. For a long time, I've always had feelings of worthlessness, uselessness, inferiority and a very bleak future. When I started trying to figure out my sexuality in middle school, things only got worse. Trying to figure out that you're a bisexual masochist at an age where you don't understand either of those things is confusing and frightening. I didn't want anyone to figure out that I was any more abnormal than they already knew. I already had a difficult time fitting in.
I wasn't unpopular, per se, I was always quite good at making people laugh (with me, not at me), but I always had a pretty hard time connecting with people on a very personal level. I had more friendly acquaintances than I could count, but I had very few friends; people who I felt comfortable and safe enough to let my guard down around. Even around these people, there was still a strong wall separating them from the parts of me I was afraid of people knowing. For most of them, that wall never came down. In high school, I had begun to drift apart from my old friends, due to differing interests, but found new people who I felt that I could talk to and confide in, including some old acquaintances that I previously hadn't been as close to. As of right now, I've managed well enough to make and keep friends, and I'm now rooming in college with one of my best friends.
Loneliness, however, comes in many forms. Finding romance has been a new challenge all in itself. In addition to my complicated sexuality, there was still the problem of finding enough people that I could connect with intimately on a personal level. There were people who liked me, but few who I really liked. Even when someone liked me, I was worried that they only really liked what they thought of me, and that if they knew me, they wouldn't like me so much. I was still too afraid to let people know me. I still am today. I'm still so lonely. I don't know how to make it stop.
Depression weighed down on me for so long and exhausted me so much that I felt compelled to find solace in the community of Newgrounds. Surely, I thought, there were other people who felt the pain that I felt, who knew the pain that I knew.
If you are reading this, know that you are not alone. If you have a story to tell, I want to listen. If you need a friend, I'm always looking for one more.