Should I ask this girl out?

[MorningAlligator]

There is some girl I really want to ask out... But i'm not sure she likes me back, she may be willing to say yes anyway, she isn't hot or popular and she looks like a nice person.

I never really liked her that much before, I had my eyes on another girl, but for some reason today randomly I started becoming attracted to the other girl.

I'm not really worried as such of her saying no and rejecting me, i'm more worried of the after-math, what if she would tell people,what if it would become awkward being around her.

I am going to get a friend to help me and I am going to try and ask her out while she is alone to save her from the embarrassment of being around her friends while I ask her out.

Another thing i'm worried about is if she does say yes that what if I end up no talking to her enough... what if i'm to shy to go up to her.

Should I ask her out?
I highly doubt she would come asking me out herself...

The other girl
There is always plan B if things don't go so well, I should go for the other girl who I originally had my eyes on until today, I did start to loose interest a while ago but then one day she kept giving me these looks as if she liked me...

The reason I never asked her out was because her locker is right next to mine and it is a rather cramped locker space so if she said NO... then I am going to have to deal with huge awkwardness for the whole school year...

The other girl.

[Sekhem]

someone lacks confidence

[Magyar]

No, girlfriends cost money. At the end of the day prostitutes cost less than girlfriends

[VicBiss]

Yes you should, don't be a pussy

[NervousGuy]

Go for it. Be confident about it. Even if you're not confident faking confidence will make people think you're confident.

[Ronald-McDonald-LoL]

You never know what they'll say until you do it.
Wouldn't you like to look back and say, "Man, I'm glad I asked her out," or would you perfer uncertainty?

[MorningAlligator]

Also trust me, I am very shy in real life, If I even talk to a female, I blush badly, I become all awkward...
I mean hopefully my friend doesn't screw it up, but I picked the friend wisely, someone who isn't immature and won't screw me up when asking.

My friend is mainly to back me up if I get a sudden fright and stop talking or stumble.

But even so, I am going to go as red as a strawberry and it's going to be hard.
I have a good feeling it will be yes...

Another thing is... I don't know her name... If she had a facebook or MSN that I knew of, I could of gotten this done hours ago, but I guess I can do it in person, Hell... Some extremely chubby kid I know managed to get a girlfriend by doing what i'm doing... I hope this goes well...

Any ideas or suggestions you can give me to help out, i'm thinking of buying some chocolates for her so she knows i'm sweet, I know she's not greedy so I doubt she will continue to ask for gifts like my friends ex-girlfriend did.

[MorningAlligator]

Bump
I guess you are kinda right, it's better to ask and try rather then wait and never find out...

[Mechabloby]

Just do it - it's awkward at first for many people, but after a while you should really loosen up with her. Good luck.

[sorryhalofreak]

pics or i can not judge.

[MorningAlligator]

Let's just hope I have the confidence that I had this afternoon by Monday...
This is going be very awkward when the moment arrives, let's hope I am able to get her attention without chickening out before I go up to her.

I might get my friend to push me to her, then get him to say "My friend wants to go out with out" then I start talking, maybe saying "Yeah, I like you, and I'm wondering if you would like to go out with me" then hand her the box of chocolates and then say "Take these weather or not you like me, I would appreciate if you could have them"

Hopefully that works out... without much stumbling, I also hope she doesn't reject me.
Also, I hope I am able to get to her while she is alone... even if it requires... er... Stalking her... to where she goe's at school.

I hope my friend is also willing to help me track her down when she's alone.
I know a guy who may also beable to help.

[Niallmcfc]

Become friends with her, learn about her, her name etc. Wait till you're really close, THEN ask her out. Be patient.

[MorningAlligator]

At 8/13/10 11:40 AM, Niallmcfc wrote: Become friends with her, learn about her, her name etc. Wait till you're really close, THEN ask her out. Be patient.

Hmm, that actually sounds like a good idea... But how am I going to start it the friendship?
what would be a good way to talk to start talking to her without random approaching...

Unless anyone has any suggestions on how to make a friendship without randomly approaching her, then keep giving me tips to asking her straight away.

[homsarrunner3]

asking a girl out is like parachuting out of an airplane. Everything has been tested, there is very little chance anything can go wrong, but it's just YOU that's afraid. The thing to do here is think to yourself "Well, you only live once!" and do it before you have a chance to regret it. Carpe Diem! Seize the day! take chances! live life!

Good luck, and hope everything goes well.

[Jon]

Just go for it. You can say 'what if..' to anything, but you'll never truly know unless you go for it.

[Graduation]

At 8/13/10 10:30 AM, MorningAlligator wrote: The other girl.

Am I the only one who noticed you put this twice?

[MorningAlligator]

Hell, your all right...
There is no way I will find out just sitting and wondering.

I made that mistake once before and I shouldn't make it again, I better go for it.
If I start chickening out, I will just have to push it further, keep moving, act like a soldier and do it.

If anyone has anymore tips and suggestions, please tell me, so far I have
-A box of chocolates.
-A friend to support me in case things get bad or I start chickening.
- Confidence
- A planned speech

What else do I need...?

[iamgrimreaper]

Don't worry about not talking to her afterwords...

lol, see what I did there?

You also gotta remember to give her her own space... Girls don't like clingy guys, or guys with no life.

[Salnax]

At 8/13/10 11:53 AM, MorningAlligator wrote: Hell, your all right...
There is no way I will find out just sitting and wondering.

I made that mistake once before and I shouldn't make it again, I better go for it.
If I start chickening out, I will just have to push it further, keep moving, act like a soldier and do it.

If anyone has anymore tips and suggestions, please tell me, so far I have
-A box of chocolates.
-A friend to support me in case things get bad or I start chickening.
- Confidence
- A planned speech

What else do I need...?

I'm going to play devil's advocate here. Confidence and backup are good, but a box of chocolates seems a tadbit much for a "So, do you wanna, ya know, go out?" speech. And be willing to deviate from the speech if necessary.

But hey. You know her and yourself way better than I do. Just giving my immediate thoughts.

[amanda]

Go for it. Worst case scenario is that the first date sucks, and then you can just hop off that train and board a different one.

[schumaccercat]

No. No I don't think you should.

[Tribal]

I bet half the people here who said "go for it" would pussy out if they had the opportunity.

[Prodigy]

At 8/13/10 12:06 PM, Tribalfusion-X wrote: I bet half the people here who said "go for it" would pussy out if they had the opportunity.

Haha, true that.

[DrClay]

If you really truly love them I'd say to follow your heart. But it appears to me that you are just finding woman attractive and just want to ask them out because.

If you were actually in love with someone, you wouldn't want anyone else... Even after the aftermath.

But with how you describe it, it just seems like your going through a phase.
All I can say is to follow your heart I guess... I'm not very good at these topics

[OneWordName]

At 8/13/10 12:06 PM, Tribalfusion-X wrote: I bet half the people here who said "go for it" would pussy out if they had the opportunity.

If I had the opportunity to ask out a 12 year old, I probably would "pussy out".

[amanda]

At 8/13/10 12:06 PM, Tribalfusion-X wrote: I bet half the people here who said "go for it" would pussy out if they had the opportunity.

I wouldn't!
But honestly if the chick's ugly, then I take back what I said about go for it.

[killerrob]

Do it.

And make a video of it, and tell us the whole story. I will supply popcorn.

[estrago1]

Go up to her when she's alone (probably after school if possible) and ask, "Would like to see a movie with me this weekend?" That may be a little straightforward, so you may want to hint at it a little more. Now, before the date, you should try to find out what some of her interests are. Then you'll have something to talk about besides the movie.

If asking her out right away doesn't sit right with you, then talk to her some more and get to know her a little. Then ask her out. Then the date won't be as awkward; you already know each other; you both know a little about each other; and you enjoy each others' company.

[Ericho]

At 8/13/10 10:30 AM, MorningAlligator wrote: not really worried as such of her saying no and rejecting me, i'm more worried of the after-math, what if she would tell people,what if it would become awkward being around her.

Why would her telling other people be that bad? I thought you had reached an age if everyone wanted a girlfriend and thus really wanted everyone to know how great you were for getting a girlfriend. We are not ten-year-olds anymore, so be proud of having a girlfriend, even if it does not work out well.

[nhy6nhy6]

well..... i think you should tell her how you feel. NOT TOO FAST, OK!!! besides, HO CARES WAT OTHER PEPLE THINK?!?! Do watyou tink is right. (I should know)