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My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 12:42:29 Reply

Hi guys. Okay a few of you know that I was engaged, and have had a child. But I am no longer with the father due to him being a controlling obsessive freak.

I knew he wasn't good husband/fiance/boyfriend material, but I always thought he would be a very good dad. But how wrong was I.
When I finished with him he became obsessive and stalkerish. He would stalk me on facebook, stalk me outside my home and constantly ring me. Up to only a week ago he stopped. But the last thing he said was that he loved me, and wouldn't be able to move on, and that his daughter is important and he will keep seeing her.

He stopped calling, stopped asking to take Tiffany (my daughter). And he took her to the doctors the other day because I was too ill and brought her straight back, hadn't even changed her or fed her.

I had a dream last night, and he's already got a new gf I looked on Facebook today and low and behold he had a new gf. Don't get me wrong, I don't love him or anything, don't have any other feelings than dislike towards him. But if you love someone, you don't move on that quick do you?

He has turned into a total hypocrite, because he didn't even let me wear normal jeans and a t-shirt as that would be classed as too revealing. But yet, his new girl is on facebook in her underwear. Don't even ask why I was with him in the first place, or why I even had a child with him. I guess I was just stupid, naive and loved him.

Meh. But seriously, I would love to know what goes on in guys heads for them to say one thing, completely control you, then forget about their daughter and go off with a whore.

Explain guys. Please.


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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 12:43:38 Reply

They start to want different things, get greedy, forget all they loved and knew and move on.

It's a shame.

Hope for the best for you.


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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 12:45:55 Reply

...What's going to happen to the baby!?

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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 12:45:58 Reply

My sister ex-husband started doing meth, beating her and stole her identity after they got a divorce, He's been in prison a couple times after the divorce and as far as I know if I see him back in town he's not gonna be happy to see me.

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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 12:47:30 Reply

He's probably doing this to make you jealous. Even if he does, from what I've read - you seem like the better person in all of this. . Seems like an irl troll >_>.


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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 12:49:42 Reply

At 1/29/10 12:45 PM, SouthAsian wrote: ...What's going to happen to the baby!?

Well I look after her all the time. Even when I was ill he couldn't even keep her for a day. He said he'll take her tomorrow, although I had to call him and ask. But I don't want his new whore.. I mean gf around him, cuz she just looks like she works in a stripper club or something... I am serious.

At 1/29/10 12:45 PM, drknes wrote: My sister ex-husband started doing meth, beating her and stole her identity after they got a divorce, He's been in prison a couple times after the divorce and as far as I know if I see him back in town he's not gonna be happy to see me.

Oh no that's terrible. If he does go back into town I wouldn't blame you for beating him shitless.


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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 12:52:04 Reply

At 1/29/10 12:49 PM, Silver-Glint wrote: Oh no that's terrible. If he does go back into town I wouldn't blame you for beating him shitless.

He lives in vegas and a friend of my brother lives up there too, He came down and we told him if he sees him fuck him up or pay a homeless guy to fuck with him.

if anything he'll be killed.
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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 12:53:45 Reply

lifes a bitch and then you die, simple theory.

look, there is no such thing as the one.
you will find a nice guy but all forms of love end in pain, its the price and the concequence, you need to accept that they,re the conditions of love

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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 12:55:24 Reply

At 1/29/10 12:42 PM, Silver-Glint wrote: Explain guys. Please.

The collective result of centuries of social analysis, cultural epidemiology and psycological studies all generate varied and interesting debate topics on this subject, but at the end of the day, it all boils down to one thing:

Some people are stupid like that. You don't have to be a guy, girl, black, white, rich, poor, or anything else. An asshole is still an asshole regardless. Sucks to be you for picking the wrong one; just learn to make do on your own for now. Not much else you can do here.

(Oh, and if you really didn't care... why are you making a thread about it?)

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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 12:57:15 Reply

At 1/29/10 12:55 PM, Sheizenhammer wrote:
(Oh, and if you really didn't care... why are you making a thread about it?)

Because it confuses me how he can neglect his daughter like that..


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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 13:02:24 Reply

At 1/29/10 12:57 PM, Silver-Glint wrote: Because it confuses me how he can neglect his daughter like that..

Just out of interest, what evidence did you have to suggest he was going to be any better at being a dad than a boyfriend?

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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 13:03:34 Reply

pro-tip: don't get pregnant when you're not in a stable relationship. No offence to your parenting skills, but a child without a stable family life is not going to have the same start in life as a child with two normal parents. Instead of giving a shit about him (this post, for example, shows you still think/worry about him) just move on and focus on your child 100%! Nothing good will come from giving a shit, if he wants to have a part in your childs life, let him, but don't let his personal life rule yours.

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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 13:08:12 Reply

At 1/29/10 01:02 PM, Sheizenhammer wrote:
Just out of interest, what evidence did you have to suggest he was going to be any better at being a dad than a boyfriend?

Because his mum has ten kids, and he is really good with them and told me how much he loves kids. And when I was with him he was constantly playing with and holding Tiffany.


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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 13:20:16 Reply

At 1/29/10 01:08 PM, Silver-Glint wrote: Because his mum has ten kids, and he is really good with them and told me how much he loves kids. And when I was with him he was constantly playing with and holding Tiffany.

Saying you love kids is one of the oldest tricks in the book, I'm afraid. It's not hard to play with a baby and make it look like you'd be a great father when really the main objective is to impress said baby's mother. Sorry; it's a major douchebag move, I know, but it happens. A lot.

Guys aren't automatically hardwired to love their own kids like girls are. I mean, it's a common result of being with their partner and wanting the best for them, but it's not always as unconditional as you'd guess. I hate to say it, but if what you've posted here is the whole truth it looks like you've been screwed over pretty badly here.

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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 13:49:27 Reply

At 1/29/10 12:42 PM, Silver-Glint wrote: Explain guys. Please.

I could ask for you to explain a lot of things, but I doubt I'll get that.


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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 13:58:35 Reply

Well, since I'm a guy, I can tell you 4 things guys think about.

1. Boobs
2. Beer
3. Boobs
4. Did I mention boobs?!

Yeah it's disgusting. I don't think like that but other men do. Not all men, but most.


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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 14:03:29 Reply

At 1/29/10 01:58 PM, Wyatt2012 wrote: Well, since I'm a guy, I can tell you 4 things guys think about.

1. Vagina
2. Beer
3. Boobs
4. Their vehicle.

Pretty much.


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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 14:09:24 Reply

And I remember telling you to take your time in picking a partner for life. Then again, I wouldn't take advice from NG either.


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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 14:10:05 Reply

You broke his heart, now he's pissed off and acting out. Some guys take it well and some don't.

I would know I'm in the same situation right now, without the kid.
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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 14:11:12 Reply

My Ex The Asshole!

So, you achieved self-buttsecks?

Tell us how! For the future of humanity!
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Response to My Ex The Asshole! 2010-01-29 14:12:24 Reply

At 1/29/10 02:09 PM, EgoistXIV wrote: And I remember telling you to take your time in picking a partner for life. Then again, I wouldn't take advice from NG either.

Yeah I should've listened. But at the same time I have a daughter because of this.. and I love her unconditionally.


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