First Girlfriend ever and how it...

[WolvenKind]

... hurts.

That's the full title.

I met her about two weeks ago, I never really had a gf before and I have no idea why cuz I was generally popular among girls in highschool but didn't care for them at the time. We went to see Avatar together after meeting once in a bar (normally I never go to bars but this was different for me with her being there) and the night I went to see Avatar in IMAX 3D with her is actually the best night of my life so far because I was feeling really down and depressed before and I was a 100% honest about this with her and took a lot of meds and never left the house (have a very traumatic past you see). But the last two weeks I felt like a completely different person, it was a very amazing feeling and I got over all my fears from the past and love is a great thing which I didn't know before. So everything felt kickass and then she's being mean to me and I found out she also had a hard life behind her, so I tried finding the root of her sudden anger towards me and others and tried helping her by talking about it (it's related to something that happened in her childhood but unimportant here) but by talking about it I think I did more damage then I tried fixing it with the knowledge I have about psychology. She told me a part of herself was destroyed once (maybe because of the emotional impact of that traumatic event?) and how she sometimes has these moodswings but me being a introspectionist, I tried connecting the dots and tried understanding her past but now it seems like I pushed her so far away. Then I said something I shouldn't have said and that's if she wouldn't be my gf anymore I'd cut my wrists but what I meant to say with those words was that I don't want to live without her because love was horrible before we met.

A friend told me she'd try to bring us together irl to talk because that chat happened online (and I hate the internet for this because you say things you wouldn't say irl), but I want to make sure everything will be all right again. This is important to me, what should I tell her to make it all right again..?

(sry if my English is crap, it's not been a very fun day for me)

[Luke]

You met her 2 weeks ago she is not your girlfriend, you do not love her, you do not really care about her. You barely know her. She is nothing.

[vow2thou]

You don't want to ask this kind of question here. The kind of people you need to ask are your friends: the people you can trust. Just... if nothing else, copy-pasta what you've written here, and show it to her. You've poured your heart out to us, so why not tell her what you've told us, huh?

[gingermagicman]

TL;DR-- He's moody so his g/f hates him. He's had a very traumatic past, you know.

[WolvenKind]

At 1/24/10 05:38 PM, vow2thou wrote: You don't want to ask this kind of question here. The kind of people you need to ask are your friends: the people you can trust. Just... if nothing else, copy-pasta what you've written here, and show it to her. You've poured your heart out to us, so why not tell her what you've told us, huh?

She doesn't want to hear it man, she's just crying on the phone.

I must've shocked her by saying I'd slit my wrists, and I have a few close friends but there's no one to talk to right now and can't stop thinking about it.

[gamekillereater]

Don't nag, bitches are replaceable and besides you're young, you'll get over it.

[REDSPADES]

MAYBE IT WAS THAT TEXT WALL

[WolvenKind]

At 1/24/10 05:46 PM, gamekillereater wrote: Don't nag, bitches are replaceable and besides you're young, you'll get over it.

I don't get over something like that quickly, bitches telling you they love you and you start losing yourself in that illusion. All those promises she made, and now everything's just falling apart.

[JKMonkey]

meh, get over it, girls come and go like the wind.

[UltimateAxl]

At 1/24/10 05:53 PM, WolvenKind wrote: I don't get over something like that quickly, bitches telling you they love you and you start losing yourself in that illusion. All those promises she made, and now everything's just falling apart.

I've fallen in this hole before. I was never a person to get over something very quickly, some people just can because they could. No matter how hard you try, you'll NEVER connect the dots. My ex-girlfriend had a rough life before and now. Me and her just had "quits" because it wouldn't work, she wasn't happy in the state she was in.

Of course, she was my first girlfriend too, I felt the pain but me and her have been only out in three weeks. I still talk about it to this day, because it's something I never felt before and a new life experience. You said you never had a girlfriend before, well that's step number one. Don't think she's the one for you, many try to manipulate "the one." But until they realized they have been wasting their time.

[AcidSoldier]

2 weeks is nothing and to be honest if you can't live without her after that long you're just an idiot.

Also, that was almost a wall of text and it hurt my eyes to read :(

[kidd25]

At 1/24/10 05:38 PM, EpicFail wrote: You met her 2 weeks ago she is not your girlfriend, you do not love her, you do not really care about her. You barely know her. She is nothing.

life moves you move and she will be a memory now follow this man advice/

[Shabbo]

Grab her cock.

didn't read lol

[Jackdabomb]

Call her, tell her in a soft gentle voice that you love her very much and then say that you have something else to say. Pause, take a deep breath of air and say gently and quietly that you're sorry for anything you might've said and say that you hope you can still be friends.

If she says no then she's a bitch get over her

If she says yes then you're in luck. Build up your friendship and eventually when the time is right you can step it up a notch and reclaim your former 2 week long relationship.

Or you can get over her, either way it's not like the worlds gonna end.

[Danny88]

At 1/24/10 05:38 PM, EpicFail wrote: You met her 2 weeks ago she is not your girlfriend, you do not love her, you do not really care about her. You barely know her. She is nothing.

Shit son lol I felt mindfucked after reading this.

[MemoryCard]

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fuck you

[ZeldaFreak701]

At 1/24/10 05:38 PM, EpicFail wrote: You met her 2 weeks ago she is not your girlfriend, you do not love her, you do not really care about her. You barely know her. She is nothing.

He speaks the truth. God teenagers thinking they're in love is so annoying.

[FaceYourFear]

At 1/24/10 05:38 PM, EpicFail wrote: You met her 2 weeks ago she is not your girlfriend, you do not love her, you do not really care about her. You barely know her. She is nothing.

i agree, u meet here 2 weeks ago! Let it go man u are in Lust not love.

[HeroDan]

I don't have a girlfriend yet, im not incredibly handsome, but im not ugly. I guess im just waiting for someone to take me for who i am :)

[zyzy]

I got a good laugh from this thanks

[HazeStigma]

You met her two weeks ago, theres no way you can be that serious with her, the person i like i've known for 4 years, i know that person, most likely you don't even know her very well.
I think you should just quit before you get even more hurt, tbh.

[Jay]

Tell her that you care for her enough that you are willing to put up with the occasional moodswing. And that she doesn't have to talk about her past unless she is ready and willing to. Another thing is that you might want to be a little less creepy(cutting your wrist may sound romantic...er, but maybe she isn't that serious about you yet)

I am saying all this, assuming that you are REALLY in love with her.

Oh and, I'm not really an expert on these matters.

[Araelyn]

To be honest, I hate those kind of mind games.
I don't blame her if you're playing those games with her mind. She's had a traumatic past and then you said you were going to cut your wrists if she wasn't going to be your girlfriend?
Do you know how awful that must have been for her?
I've had a previous on/off kind of boyfriend of a year tell me he was going to kill himself because I said I didn't love him anymore, then he was going to and ended up cutting his torso several times.
I thought it was MY fault, but really, he was severely fucked up and ended up getting help and going on anti-depressants.
If you want to fix this, then figure out why the fuck you'd want to guilt trip her like that and make it seem like she HAS to be with you.
Stop that shit right now.
You don't own her and she doesn't have to be with you.
If you want to make things right, then fucking apologize for fuck's sake and say what you really meant.

[Wonko-the-Sane]

At 1/24/10 05:33 PM, WolvenKind wrote: if she wouldn't be my gf anymore I'd cut my wrists
I hate the internet for this because you say things you wouldn't say irl

That's not the Internets fault their buddy, you're a dumbass. You need to learn self-censorship.

Next time, don't tell the girl you've known for two weeks that you're ready to commit suicide. It's not a romantic declaration of love, it's creepy and obsessive.

[Icecry0]

Comfort now, figuring out later.

[BrockManson]

At 1/24/10 05:38 PM, EpicFail wrote: You met her 2 weeks ago she is not your girlfriend, you do not love her, you do not really care about her. You barely know her. She is nothing.

This.

Also, for future reference; telling a girl that you'll cut your wrists if she won't stay with you is one of the most pathetic things you can ever say to a member of the opposite sex.

[Letiger]

At 1/24/10 05:38 PM, EpicFail wrote: You met her 2 weeks ago she is not your girlfriend, you do not love her, you do not really care about her. You barely know her. She is nothing.

This post is even funnier in that it uses short sentances. Wait. Those are not periods. Those are commas!!!

[Afterhumanity]

Sorry to hear about your loss guy.. but two weeks is two weeks.. move on. =)

here, have a cookie.. ( >'.')>O

[Auz]

I kinda agree with all the people who said you've only known her for 2 weeks and blablabla.

I mean... you can't possibly know all that much about her in such a short period. And now the first time you actually get to know her a little better, you end up in a fight and you immediately break up.

Judging from that, it doesn't look like she's really the right girl for you. You should probably just let her go and find a different girl.

[arbiter009]

At 1/24/10 08:04 PM, bagle wrote: MY LIFE IS SO FUCKING TERRIBLE YOU HAVE NO FUCKING CLUE INTERNET!

win