Love can turn in Hate??

[Osuka]

2 months passed since my girlfriend broke up with me, and i cant forget her, just when i wake up i remenber her and think all the day. And recently i started to have bad mood attacks, i feel a lot of hatred inside me like i never felt before. And is hard to forget because the brother works in the same place that me and we are really good friends.

is the 1st time in my life that I dont like the christmas. Now I dont know what to ***** do, I want to stop feeling like this but I dont know how

[mikel33405]

What is love? Baby dont hurt me, dont hurt me. No more.

[Keven11Twenty7]

I know it hurts. But all I can tell you is that it will go away.
It can't last forever.

[STEM]

Best thing you can do is just smile about the situation and laugh it off. Might not make much sense, but the more you linger in your bad moods, the worse they'll get. Don't hang in the darkness, just imagine walking into a brightly lit day and smile. Make it a habit to laugh about everything, even those things that don't initially constitute joy. Will feel weird at first but after a while you'll understand the reason.

[Grizzli]

Sounds like SHE GIVES LOVE A BAD NAME!

bon jovi FTW

[Osuka]

At 12/13/09 08:18 PM, STEM wrote: Best thing you can do is just smile about the situation and laugh it off. Might not make much sense, but the more you linger in your bad moods, the worse they'll get. Don't hang in the darkness, just imagine walking into a brightly lit day and smile. Make it a habit to laugh about everything, even those things that don't initially constitute joy. Will feel weird at first but after a while you'll understand the reason.

I used to be like that, smiling and laugh about everything, but recentrly I feel a lot of wrath and i feel that i must kill somebody (i never do that, im not that stupid), but i just feel that inside :s

[Conal]

Part of the emotional pain is love turning into hate so suddenly.

[WeHaveFreshCookies]

You just gotta get over her bro. Try to smile as much as you can and eventually the pain will numb. I learned a while ago not to get too close or attached to somebody.

[TheSilverGuitar]

At 12/13/09 08:18 PM, STEM wrote: Best thing you can do is just smile about the situation and laugh it off.

I disagree. You should embrace whatever emotion you're feeling at a given moment, as opposed to concealing it. Hatred and depression are just as important as happiness and love.

As for the thread title, I don't think the love turned into hate, but rather it was replaced by it. Love and hatred are two separate bodies, and maybe one just faded out while the other faded in.

Regardless, I'm sorry you feel this way. Hope you get through it alright man.

[Osuka]

At 12/13/09 08:26 PM, WeHaveFreshCookies wrote: You just gotta get over her bro. Try to smile as much as you can and eventually the pain will numb. I learned a while ago not to get too close or attached to somebody.

Well the attach is really strong, we was friends like 6 years and a couple for 2 years, also her family is awesome (except for the dad). Also i was trying to buy a weeding ring :s

At 12/13/09 08:23 PM, GOTHCLAWZ wrote: Part of the emotional pain is love turning into hate so suddenly.

yeah that turning me crazy :s sometimes im in a good mod and then i want to destroy all the world

At 12/13/09 08:21 PM, Grizzli wrote: Sounds like SHE GIVES LOVE A BAD NAME!

bon jovi FTW

That song is awesome thanks :D

[Osuka]

At 12/13/09 08:30 PM, TheSilverGuitar wrote:

I disagree. You should embrace whatever emotion you're feeling at a given moment, as opposed to concealing it. Hatred and depression are just as important as happiness and love.

As for the thread title, I don't think the love turned into hate, but rather it was replaced by it. Love and hatred are two separate bodies, and maybe one just faded out while the other faded in.

Regardless, I'm sorry you feel this way. Hope you get through it alright man.

I agree with you in this, I think that Hatred is my defense to not feeling sad or depressed. For example i always dreamed about her when i was sleeping, now i think about her all the day and i dont dream anything. I think that my brain turned that swich off to stop thinking about her for a couple of hours

[Ship]

You really just have to stop thinking about her. I know now that sounds like impossible useless advice but it really helped me through a similar experience. The best way to forget about her is find someone else better than her, then she won't even matter anymore. Push her out of your head, and if your feelings of rage get the best of you, find something safe to vent on, like a punching bag, or someone you can talk to. You just have to forget about her, accept it, and move on.

[estrago1]

I would hang out a lot with your friends. Try to get yourself around anything funny or happy. I find that happy, up-beat songs from bands you like will cheer anyone up.

Another thing you can do is try to remain friends with this girl. You may not be seeing each other anymore, but being around her may make you realize that she isn't completely gone. You can still be friends with her.

[Osuka]

At 12/13/09 08:57 PM, estrago1 wrote: I would hang out a lot with your friends. Try to get yourself around anything funny or happy. I find that happy, up-beat songs from bands you like will cheer anyone up.

Another thing you can do is try to remain friends with this girl. You may not be seeing each other anymore, but being around her may make you realize that she isn't completely gone. You can still be friends with her.

well, now we are friends, but she is not calling me, and i think that is hard to see her as a friend because i still have strong feelings. Normally i hear Power metal to cheer me up, or Death Metal to release the anger, but none is working. and i have a punch bag so i can try that :)

[6r0undZ3r0]

Give it a while. Time heals everything.

[SevenSeize]

I know you're probably sick of hearing this because it's cliche, but honestly, time will fix it.

and I know because I've been there. I was in a 4 year relationship that ended very very badly and just like you, I couldn't avoid this person, for similar reasons.

and it took months, but eventually, I realized the split was for the best and now I don't even think about him anymore.

He's part of the past, and that's where he stays. and I'm happy.

You will be too.

Get rid of that hate right now. Holding onto that will kill you inside. and those aren't the lyrics to some emo breaking benjamin song. That's more words of experience.

Good luck sir.

[camobch0]

I know you're situation. I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years, and we were friends for ~8 years. Then he cheated on me and I had to break up with him. But don't worry. Within a couple months, you'll mostly be over it. Maybe the occasionally sad era, but you will start feeling better. One thing NOT to do is turn to drugs or alcohol. They REALLY fucked me up, to the point where I tried heroin and got caught. Just try to be around people, friends, even if its just hanging in a mall. And try to meditate for atleast an hour a day. Meditation helps sooooooooooo much. Good luck Osaka, hope you feel better soon :)

[Osuka]

At 12/13/09 10:46 PM, SevenSeize wrote:
Get rid of that hate right now. Holding onto that will kill you inside. and those aren't the lyrics to some emo breaking benjamin song. That's more words of experience.

Good luck sir.

hahaha, well thats true, i will try to get free from this rage soon as posible, my friend of the office told me about a friend who wroke up with his couple (the was like 11 years together) and he took 1 year to heal. I dont want to take that long time to feel better i need to do it quickly

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Yeah i know that the alcohol and drugs wont help, the only time that i get drunk i called my mother to tell her Happy Birthday!!.. fuck what a mess. And about the drugs, i even dont like the medicinal ones, im one of these guys who believes that the body is strong enough to resist the illness

But I keep in mind your advices :)

[bigjuicy]

Buy a bag of weed, problem solved.

[Zombified]

It's turning into that because you're thinking about her all the time. Just try and do more things that you used to enjoy before you met her. I went through the same thing with my ex. It's almost been a year, and I'm just now getting back into enjoying my life and getting back on-track. Good luck man, we all have to go through this shit at least once in our lives.

[gingermagicman]

I know exactly how you feel. I broke up with a girl 10 days ago and we've barely made eye contact since.

[killerrob]

Sorry for the bad mood attacks, dude.
Take your anger out on something virtual so something like this:

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Still, try to look at the good side of life.

[Lorkas]

At 12/13/09 08:18 PM, STEM wrote: Best thing you can do is just smile about the situation and laugh it off. Might not make much sense, but the more you linger in your bad moods, the worse they'll get. Don't hang in the darkness, just imagine walking into a brightly lit day and smile. Make it a habit to laugh about everything, even those things that don't initially constitute joy. Will feel weird at first but after a while you'll understand the reason.

Yeah, this works and keeps bad thoughts away and eventually turns them into "yeah haha, good times good times". I've tried it. It works...Most of the time, anyway.

If that doesn't work you can always switch to "Shit happens" or "So what?" mode.

[Idiot-Finder]

Yes it can, ever heard of yandere-mode?

[Osuka]

At 12/14/09 11:09 AM, Zombified wrote: It's turning into that because you're thinking about her all the time. Just try and do more things that you used to enjoy before you met her. I went through the same thing with my ex. It's almost been a year, and I'm just now getting back into enjoying my life and getting back on-track.

wow that a long time, well i will try it :) thanks

:Good luck man, we all have to go through this shit at least once in our lives.

yeah i the worst experience ever, i think that is worst that a prostate exam XD

[Craptaco]

Absolutely yes... Love? = HATE!!

[Mystery-Moon-Pie-Aud]

You could hold her captive til she likes you again?

[Randomdude111]

Rape is always an option

[ohbombuh]

At 12/13/09 10:27 PM, 6r0undZ3r0 wrote: Give it a while. Time heals everything.

I take it you've never had a tumor.

[Osuka]

At 12/15/09 11:16 PM, grandia2 wrote: give in to your aggressive feelings boy, strike all those before you , do not hesitate and your transition to the dark side will be complete .

hahaha im in that mood right now XD