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At 11/6/09 03:58 PM, EclecticEnnui wrote: Since I have Asperger's, I may not be one to give the best advice, because I know what it's like to be socially anxious. I do have friends and go to parties, but I more or less stay quiet or at least don't talk non-stop. What's worked for me is sharing interests, having a sense of humour, and talking about what I know or even what I don't. Right now, I'm part of a group of people roughly my age who have Asperger's or Autism. It's been difficult at first to talk, but as I warm up to them, I'm OK.

So does GoryBlizzard, but he still has the right idea and sounds like he has a lot of experience. Holding yourself down because of a mental problem is like deciding not to do something because it's not the "correct" time of day.

Just find kids who are even more lame than you are. You won't have anything to worry about, or be anxious about hanging out with them.

Once you start feeling confident with your social skills, move up on the ladder.

Or you can take the ballsy route.. and just get a girlfriend. Become friends with her friends, and before you know it you will be SUPER POPULARRRR.

At 11/6/09 04:54 PM, Lost-Chances wrote: So does GoryBlizzard, but he still has the right idea and sounds like he has a lot of experience. Holding yourself down because of a mental problem is like deciding not to do something because it's not the "correct" time of day.

Yeah, Asperger's can be a fucking bitch to live with, but I try not to let it (or my major depression and schizophrenia) debilitate me too much despite how tough that can be. As for my experience, I wish I had more of it. My social skills still suck, the only friends I have are my old friends from years back, and I've only been going to parties on a regular basis for just a little over a year--since August 2008, when I first entered college as a freshman.

The OP is 17, which would lead me to believe that he's probably a senior in high school. Generally, in high school, there are a lot of factors that make it much harder to party unlike in college, where parties are usually everywhere on Friday nights. I only went to two parties in my entire high school career, and some people might be lucky to even make it to one before graduating.

At 11/6/09 04:54 PM, Lost-Chances wrote: So does GoryBlizzard, but he still has the right idea and sounds like he has a lot of experience.

You're saying I have the wrong idea? I don't know GoryBlizzard, but he just said in the post below yours that his social skills "still suck".

Holding yourself down because of a mental problem is like deciding not to do something because it's not the "correct" time of day.

I'm not holding myself down as if I absolutely won't socialize. If you know me like my parents, then you know it's indeed a problem for me.

At 11/6/09 01:50 PM, applespider wrote: I've been away from Newgrounds for quite a while, so I'm sorry if this kind of stuff isn't allowed. I need some advice. I'm 17 years old. I have never "hung out" with anybody outside of school, and I spend all of my free time at home. It's starting to drive me crazy. I want to have friends, but whenever I'm in a group of people, I don't know what to do/say and I just lock up. I live in northern New Jersey, if that helps. I have no acces to any sort of transportation other than by foot. Can you offer some advice as to what I should do to get back on track (socially)?

Yes.

Join a martial arts club. Doesn't have to be anything exotic, Karate or Tae Kwon Do are both good

I promise you it will solve all of your problems pretty quick.

At 11/6/09 05:17 PM, GoryBlizzard wrote: Yeah, Asperger's can be a fucking bitch to live with, but I try not to let it (or my major depression and schizophrenia) debilitate me too much despite how tough that can be. As for my experience, I wish I had more of it. My social skills still suck, the only friends I have are my old friends from years back, and I've only been going to parties on a regular basis for just a little over a year--since August 2008, when I first entered college as a freshman.

It probably is, but the fact you're still going to parties proves that you must be doing something right.

At 11/6/09 06:25 PM, EclecticEnnui wrote:

At 11/6/09 04:54 PM, Lost-Chances wrote: So does GoryBlizzard, but he still has the right idea and sounds like he has a lot of experience.

You're saying I have the wrong idea? I don't know GoryBlizzard, but he just said in the post below yours that his social skills "still suck".

Still suck, but he's still going to parties. Which, is essentially, the foot in the door.

Holding yourself down because of a mental problem is like deciding not to do something because it's not the "correct" time of day.

I'm not holding myself down as if I absolutely won't socialize. If you know me like my parents, then you know it's indeed a problem for me.

I'm just saying, putting yourself down as "AH, CAN'T DO THIS, GOT MENTAL PROBLEM" is just stupid.

At 11/6/09 07:18 PM, Lost-Chances wrote: Still suck, but he's still going to parties. Which, is essentially, the foot in the door.

I also said I was going to parties. I was at a Halloween party, last week.

I'm just saying, putting yourself down as "AH, CAN'T DO THIS, GOT MENTAL PROBLEM" is just stupid.

OK, but I never said I can't do this. I do try, but it's not easy. If you had Asperger's or studied it, you'd probably know.