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Hey everyone,

It seems that this has been a debatable thought, depending if your a male or female, but it would be interesting to get some different new opinions on this and give your point of view...Is it just me, or does it seem as if every time a female teacher has some sexual relationship with a student the media goes crazy and talks about how "hot" she may be....Remember, Debra Lafave, the smokin' "hot" blond teacher that ended up having a love affair with her student?..The media seemed to go head over heels for her.....The question tho is, does it seem as if women offenders who do this tend to receive less of a penalty compared to male offenders who commit the same exact crime?....Its almost like women offenders is "sexy"...whereas male offenders are "creepy, predators"

Here is the story & mug shot photos of these cases:
Top Female Teacher Sex Scandals

Does anyone else have an opinion or thoughts on this?...Do you agree its kindda a double standard?


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Man gets punished for this = Justice
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its more common for men to commit crimes like this, maybe that has something to do with it o.o

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At 11/6/09 12:21 PM, MrFinland wrote: Man gets punished for this = Justice
Woman gets punished for this = Sexism

Too true, girl students just rat them out more

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Why is it a crime at all? Who are they to tell me who it's ok to have or not have sex with?

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the idea that is presented is a interestng one ... can this world be descriminate towards its own while it still can hold the morals that we are to grow up by... and in effect do we thrive on the breaking of the rules and guidelines in this world... i believe that the media would rather portray anything that catches anyones attention... bradcasting a sext young female is way more interesting in the long run ... then a male that dows the exact same crime... as we all know it the fabric of this society is coming apart... when sexism cn take control of our minds... it is just a simple roll of the dice for the media and we all want to reed about the sexy one then the preditor that poached kids to get them to do what he wants... it is a cunundrum that realy does'nt have a answer until studies are done... and if those studies were done then people would most likely be released from jail before they should be.... and the idea that people would be realesed from jail would be a violation of people thoughts...thus those studies would never happen because we dont want them to happen... thus we can not hold judgements either way ... we just leave it to the fact that it is a problemthe people invite apon them selves when they partake when the go ahead and preditor someone...

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Yeah, it's a double standard, but these "double standards" are hardly recognized in society when it comes to males. The general idea is the sacredness of a woman's virtue, whereas men will always be considered prowling sex hounds. When these cases cross the public eye, and the offender is the woman, it's assumed that the boy was more enthusiastic about it rather than a victim of coercion regardless of the woman's intentions. On the flip side you have the male offender with the young girl, and regardless of the man's intentions or the willingness of the girl, she is always a victim of the big bad man and his big dirty penis. It's like that in situations with two adults as well (rape, sexual harassment, etc) because that's just what's been embedded in society throughout the years.

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How many of the male students would tell the media/police? That might be it.

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At 11/6/09 12:39 PM, sandmanstaysawake wrote: Yeah, it's a double standard, but these "double standards" are hardly recognized in society when it comes to males. The general idea is the sacredness of a woman's virtue, whereas men will always be considered prowling sex hounds.

Thats a real good point, sandmanstaysawake.


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At 11/6/09 12:35 PM, quagmire690 wrote: thus those studies would never happen because we dont want them to happen... thus we can not hold judgements either way ... we just leave it to the fact that it is a problemthe people invite apon them selves when they partake when the go ahead and preditor someone...

Or rather, studies have probably already been carried out, but because this is actually a very specific sort of crime, it's hard to tackle in a very off-hand way. I disagree with the majority "not wanting" the sort of study carried out, and at least the directors of this sort of thing tend to be the most critical of them all, throwing that assumption out of the window almost. The way crime statistics are made out make it hard to study that way, because they tend to be more general, and hence any data spurring from those numbers is bound to be incomplete. A further independant investigation would be costly, and ethical issues would splurge out of the author's ass. If the study were successful, the author could probably wipe the mess up with one of their dollar bills, and they'd have a cinsiderable amount of dollar bills to choose from by then. Forming the investigation itself would be a complicated matter of methodology, though "closer" studies have proved possible and beneficial before... but even after that, how much time would be the media give to that, leading on to the next point below.

If I find any studies that are relevant, I'll link them, but the meat of this sort of thing can't usually be found online, erm, easily, at least from past experiences.

At 11/6/09 12:21 PM, MrFinland wrote: Man gets punished for this = Justice
Woman gets punished for this = Sexism

The way you worded that makes it seem as if you believe any positive media coverage and general public bias about the female offenders in this case is the fault of the offenders themselves, which I disagree with. I don't even think it's the fault of "political correctness", which although is an abstract thought I've criticised before for allowing extreme minority thinking to enter what some believe is a mainstream idea (and giving people the impression that the best way to fight a minority thought is to promptly eject all related thought, extreme or not).

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In the eyes of the media, it's simply easier to glamourise female offenders like myths of many centuries ago. A passive majority of women are probably not too keen on that really (I don't know for sure, it's hard getting them on the phone), never mind non-radical feminists, which you know, comprise most of the postmodern feminist base... you know, apart from... media exaggerations. I think I just found a cycle. I don't know.

Ironically, the one(s) that usually suffers most as a result of this air-time is the offender(s) herself/themselves. Aileen Wuornos is a famous example. On the topic of violent crime here, contrast with Henry Lee Lucas, another popular romantic of the American non-fiction murder scene. It's a typical comparison, I know, but it fits here, as much as Lucas' stories are hugely artificial themselves at times. I don't think my words here prove MrFinland's post, because I don't think I'm using the "popular" form of sexism - I think there's a great deal of background to it, but I don't know, hmm?

Related: try to watch Nick Broomfield's 1994 documentary on Aileen Wuornos. It's not a nice film, but it's put together brilliantly, and it makes you think about this issue.

I won't argue that small pieces of evidence has been found that supports the chivalry thesis:

"Finally, the chivalry thesis suggests that in response to the women's movement, the criminal justice system has lessened their leniency (chivalry) towards women who commit crimes, "creating the 'if it's equality they want, it's equality they'll get' mentality (Simon & Landis, 1991, p. 12).""

That author then says however,

"However, Simon and Landis point out there is little evidence of chivalry in the court system, and that any favors granted are probably granted to white, upper-class women. Since the typical female offender is not a white, upper-class woman, chivalry probably does not have any great impact on the crime rate among women."

Anyway, most examinations show that the chivalry thesis is largely not observable if you look at the numbers (enter alternative debate!). Any other assumptions we make is, like the linked article fom the OP says, men generally commit more crimes than women, not just in this specialist case. Most study time has focused on male motivation: subculture and/or masculinities, the role of a responsible man in a failing economy, and so on. When the popular media has a pretty much insatiable appetite for something different, there's bound to be a bit of glamourising... and you know, making it the norm for everyone. It's just an unfortunate gift of the time, if I'm making sense. We have the information, but pegging abstract, unproven thought is more convenient. Then the information turned weird so to speak.

Right, I've gone on far too long, and apoligies to the OP for not really directly tackling your point, but maybe there's something, I don't really know anymore. I would go further with my media related rambling, but I'm either lazy, tired, or self-conscious. hmmhmm.


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At 11/6/09 12:21 PM, MrFinland wrote: Man gets punished for this = Justice
Woman gets punished for this = Sexism

I've never heards anyone argue that. Meanwhile, I see a lot "Lol dude got lucky" with female teacher cases.

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It's because teenage girls will turn around and say the guy forced them into it.
The teenage boy will usually turn around and admit it was consenting.
And before you bring in a contradicting source, I said usually.

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At 11/6/09 01:29 PM, andhination wrote: It's because teenage girls will turn around and say the guy forced them into it.
The teenage boy will usually turn around and admit it was consenting.
And before you bring in a contradicting source, I said usually.

I guess its just the world we live in, right? lol?


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At 11/6/09 02:23 PM, TheAdd wrote: I honestly think that it will soon be illegal to say something to women unless its nice.

lol, i think you may be right.


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At 11/6/09 12:21 PM, MrFinland wrote: Man gets punished for this = Justice
Woman gets punished for this = Sexism

I honestly believe that. Not sure if it's just society POV, but does seem like when males get caught, seems soo much worse than if a woman gets caught. Probably because guys get caught more.

And when the guys do get caught, seems they are of MORE status. However, I just don't justify for either gender to do it.

Of course, schools take this VERY seriously. Not too long ago, a teacher at my former high school was being investigated on the same issue. She wasn't even found guilty due to lack of evidence, but just the shear thought of it was enough to make her resign, and forfeit her teaching license.

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Let me ask you good sir, if you found out your son was porking the teacher, would you punish or congradulate him?

And if your daughter did the same?

All this boils down to is the ye olde protection instinct. See we feel that men are able to take care of themselves and a much earlier age then women.

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Most guys are hornyer than girls so most of the time a guy wants to fuck a hot teacher so there really is no issue besides conflictive intrest. If is is a girl she might not want to have sex especially with a creepy lookin dude (if it was a good looking guy and she wanted him it is not a situation really). It is more a question of did the other person over power and rape this person or did they decide to have sex mutually?

If she/he consents to sex I see no problem.
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At 11/6/09 12:19 PM, frcontrib wrote: Remember, Debra Lafave, the smokin' "hot" blond teacher that ended up having a love affair with her student?..The media seemed to go head over heels for her

I think the case in point here is that anyone willing to cross the line and have sex with a minor. Come on, it's not as if these people have tried to have sex with a student who is of legal age. The problem being that most male school students of the ages 14-16 are not exactly going to hold back.

Its almost like women offenders is "sexy"...whereas male offenders are "creepy, predators"

Some of these people are desperately in need of going outside. Debra Lafave wouldn't have had any trouble in seducing 18-25 year olds with the way she looked. Now that I know she's a sex offender, that's the only thing stopping me from going near her... that and the distance I live from her :P

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At 11/6/09 02:59 PM, Coop83 wrote:

:The problem being that most male school students of the ages 14-16 are not exactly going to hold back.

Thats true, but at that age, if you have a 30-40yr old woman seducing you - shouldnt it be her that should hold back? lol


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i think that's mostly due to our dispositions on each gender. The image of a male having sex with minors is that of some fat hairy creepy rapist. The idea of a women having sex with minors is a cougar. It's less offensive to a massive degree


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I agree with other comments here that there is unfortunately a double-standard when it comes to comparing male and female teachers having sex with their students. However, I also find it interesting that technology has had such a huge impact on the prevalence of such relationships. Sexting, Facebook encounters and cellular phone calls between students and teachers never happened twenty years ago. Students also survived without them, so though what I'm about to say is quite controversial, I personally believe that a large contributing factor is the growing tendency of parents to simply put trust in the system and leave their children to be raised and chaperoned by their teachers. Obviously, this contributes to closer relationships; failing to monitor and/or completely limiting cellular and Internet usage also leaves many of these children wide open to becoming victims, though they probably don't see it that way. The media has so over-sexed our kids that of course they're curious and would most likely be open to trying something new if someone they trust suggests it. I know my kids have no need to be on the Internet unless it's to conduct research for school, and they can socialize with their friends in person during the day. They also don't have cell phones and seem to be just fine with calling their friends from home. Though these measures don't eliminate the risk, I feel more confident that any contact between them and their teachers is more likely to be appropriate and within the confines of school and related work.


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its all just fucked up. theres not really much you can do about it though, so if your thinking of becoming a teacher, find your pussy elsewhere

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At 11/6/09 12:39 PM, sandmanstaysawake wrote: Yeah, it's a double standard, but these "double standards" are hardly recognized in society when it comes to males. The general idea is the sacredness of a woman's virtue, whereas men will always be considered prowling sex hounds.

THANK YOU FOR POINTING THAT OUT! FINALLY! I mean jeez, they think men will do like, anything for teh boom-boom while a woman will just not do anything at all.

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At 11/6/09 12:21 PM, MrFinland wrote: Man gets punished for this = Justice
Woman gets punished for this = Sexism

Double standard. Welcome to the real world.


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girl teachers don't get told on so often

guys don't fucking care

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There's definitely sexual bias in these matters but I feel that there should be to some extent.

Having sex with a hot female teacher when you're 15 would be considered fairly damned cool by your classmates and probably something that you'd still be bragging about in your 40s.

For a girl it's a little bit different. I think there'd be a huge amount of shame and regret involved. Obviously this is a generalisation but I don't think you can treat men and women exactly the same on all subjects regardless of what PC people try to push and sex is a completely different experience for both genders............again in general.

So in summary...........

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At 11/6/09 07:08 PM, Raguel wrote: There's definitely sexual bias in these matters but I feel that there should be to some extent.

Having sex with a hot female teacher when you're 15 would be considered fairly damned cool by your classmates and probably something that you'd still be bragging about in your 40s.

For a girl it's a little bit different. I think there'd be a huge amount of shame and regret involved. Obviously this is a generalisation but I don't think you can treat men and women exactly the same on all subjects regardless of what PC people try to push and sex is a completely different experience for both genders............again in general.

So in summary...........

Niiice!

I don't think so. I don't understand why you feel as if females are more fragile in this matter. Either way, a teacher is having sex with an underage student. A male or female student can be damaged emotionally by this in the same way.


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Lets not forget the other side of this double standard. A highschool male gets laid a lot he is a player and probably fairly popular. A highschool female gets laid a lot she may still be popular but always denigrated as some dumb slut. Despite what people like to believe men and women view sex differently, so a minor sleeping with a teacher will have a different impact on the minor if said minor is male or female. However I think it is prudent to note that it also comes down to the induvidual, some chicks might be okay after it all and some guys might be emotionally damaged by it after.

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At 11/6/09 01:21 PM, Scarab wrote:
At 11/6/09 12:35 PM, quagmire690 wrote: wall of text that hurts my eyes.

So basically, you're saying the media sucks ball and loves being sexist?

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At 11/6/09 07:59 PM, cool154 wrote: So basically, you're saying the media sucks ball and loves being sexist?

Haha, well, I wouldn't think of it as black and white as that, as much as my previous post may have made it out that way. It's not really enough to say that certain types of media "love being sexist": they have their own motivations for that, which I won't bring in due to a fear of running off on my own kind of ideology and detracting from the actual subject matter of this thread. What I want to convey is that even though we live in an era that's been called the "age of information", it's really more accurate to call it an age of convenience as a result of aggressive ideological transfer via equally aggressive media control.

I don't really know how to put it any better, due to my poor writing ability and the fact that I was in a more knowledgeable state when I wrote my earlier post, but I believe it's not a case of sexism if you look at crime on the whole, but it's something to throw when something else in particular feels threatened. As I mentioned before, crime statistics do not show an equal divide between offenders in regards to sexism, and that's just not a case of "political correctness at work". You can't blame an abstract thought for a problem in society every time, it's, quite frankly, illogical if we take every other factor away. You can't even give political correctness a voice amongst the majority, because the majority would feel the same (other) way regardless, you know, if it weren't for media glamourisation under privately owned media outlets.

But you know, I have no sources, and many opinions aegue against this. It's just how I feel right now, looking at what we can do and how we seem to be... "informed", shall we say. My main point? Blaming every single woman on Earth for the way a society reacts to how an absolute extreme minority of women is treated by an institution (the media, above all an outlet's owners and their ideas) they're not actively part of doesn't make any sense. That's not how everyone here will see, maybe not even the majority, but it certainly seems that way at times.

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