My Friend...

[Kwing]

Has some of the craziest parents ever. They made her go into a private school where each day is from 8AM to 6PM, and are super-paranoid (a few results of which have been that she's never trick or treated or been on a train, and yes those are rather random examples). They don't want her hanging out with me because I'm not Jewish, and they seem to ignore (or simply not recognize) the fact that their iron fist in raising her has conditioned her to avoid her parents as much as possible, which creates an air of distrust between parent and child. To this effect she has gone as far as listening to her iPod during one of her mother's long-winded lectures. Ergo, she's entirely unable to console with her parents on anything. Sadly, my friend doesn't even recognize that this is an uncommon occurrence.

I'm starting to worry that this could have some serious negative effects in long-term, or that she may be so sheltered she gets herself into a dangerous situation when she finally explores the real world. While it generally wouldn't be my place to do anything, I really am getting worried about her and I really feel like I should do something to help. The problem is, I have no idea what I can do.

I've suggested my friend openly express her distaste of her parents (and particularly her upbringing), but she says she's already tried multiple times, and her parents seem to be the type prone to denial.

What do I do?

[Butt-Blast]

I advise you try and keep up or you'll be cleaning your friend's pool at his 25 million mansion.

[Zombified]

Sadly, I have a friend in a similar situation. It's to the point where his father says "Jump" and the only response suitable would be to say "how high?". Now obviously that's just a phrase, or example, but you get the point. It's sad really, children that grow up in fear of their parents aren't usually healthy. In my oppinion anyways.

[Sizzlebuzz]

At 11/4/09 03:49 AM, Butt-Blast wrote: I advise you try and keep up or you'll be cleaning your friend's pool at his 25 million mansion.

That doesn't make any sense.

As for your issue, this is a common occurrence. I'm not sure what you can do though.

[Zombified]

At 11/4/09 03:56 AM, Sizzlebuzz wrote:

At 11/4/09 03:49 AM, Butt-Blast wrote: I advise you try and keep up or you'll be cleaning your friend's pool at his 25 million mansion.

That doesn't make any sense.

As for your issue, this is a common occurrence. I'm not sure what you can do though.

If you think about it, it does make sense. If he doesn't "keep up" with his friends seemingly succesful lifestyle, he'll fall behind and get a shit job because of it.

[Butt-Blast]

At 11/4/09 03:59 AM, Zombified wrote:

If you think about it, it does make sense. If he doesn't "keep up" with his friends seemingly succesful lifestyle, he'll fall behind and get a shit job because of it.

That's exactly what I meant.

[Sizzlebuzz]

At 11/4/09 03:59 AM, Zombified wrote:

At 11/4/09 03:56 AM, Sizzlebuzz wrote:

At 11/4/09 03:49 AM, Butt-Blast wrote: I advise you try and keep up or you'll be cleaning your friend's pool at his 25 million mansion.

That doesn't make any sense.

As for your issue, this is a common occurrence. I'm not sure what you can do though.

If you think about it, it does make sense. If he doesn't "keep up" with his friends seemingly succesful lifestyle, he'll fall behind and get a shit job because of it.

I got that part. But it had nothing to do with the issue at hand. And the person he is talking about is a SHE, not a HE. This had nothing to do with the reason OP made this thread. And private schools don't always equal success, if we are even going down that road.

Which is why I said it doesn't make much sense. It was a post completely off topic, referring to a gender that was not used.

[WhaleSnail]

poor soul. I feel very sorry for you and your friend. Sadly, I have no advice to offer. It will probably work out well though.

[5lip5tr3am3r]

Kwing, it sounds like you are a good friend.

However If you tried to intervene or get between this girl and her parents I think it would only end in tears.

I think the best thing you can do is keep looking out for her, and be there when she needs help or just someone to talk to. When your friend gets old enough she can break away herself and become more independant but until then she will need your continued support.

[REDSPADES]

The chinese go to school from 7am til 8pm. They are the hardest working most efficient and productive people on the planet, proven by their dominating economic climate, they may not be the happiest nation, but neither is america most international mental health reports.

Your friend's parents are doing a good thing by making sure she gets the best education she can and reaches her maximum potential. I would normally go mental because you're so young and think you're wise to the world already and know what you're talking about, but i wont today. All i'll say is that now is the time for education, and the going out and living life comes a little later, she wont become sheltered, and its in no way your decision on how she lives, it'll never be your choice, for now its her parents and later it will be hers.

Its clear you wanna have sex with her, but just can't get her alone. Tough luck, wait til' you're older.

[SlayerX3]

At 11/4/09 03:14 AM, Kwing wrote: . They don't want her hanging out with me because I'm not Jewish

Jews

well there is your problem

[leo967846]

Thats called "over-strict" parents.
Get them a shrink.

[Kwing]

At 11/4/09 07:30 AM, REDSPADES wrote: Something something death star. Something something dark side.

Dude, my friend isn't very happy either. And the school isn't even that good. Supposedly it's heavily religious, and what's worse is that my friend would define God as "an imaginary man up in the sky". Because she's going to be stuck there for her highschool years, that's not the problem. I just said that to give you a better idea of her upbringing.

Regardless of education, the problem is that there's growing stress between my friend and her parents, and I don't like the idea of waiting until my friend is unable to contain the problem singly, because by then I'm not sure anything can be done. Hell, I don't know if there's anything that can be done NOW, but it's obvious that this problem isn't going to fix itself.

[ChaDMcBaDD]

She is their daughter and they are her parents. you are just a friend. unless they are physically or mentally abusing her u cant do a damn thing. although i can see that you would consider this abuse, its really not.

just be there for support.