don't go for 'nice guys' but jerks? Read this.
http://divalion.livejournal.com/163615.h tml
It's four years old, but I ran into it while on /r9k/ (>_>)
It may seem lengthy, but she writes well enough. She rants about guys who consider themselves to be 'Nice Guys' but they only do their 'nice' things because they expect sex and some sort of strong relationship in return.
I'm not saying that you are one of the guys she rants about, but it's still an interesting read into the mind of a female. Personally, it made me look at myself and how I've screwed up with girls in the past.