At 11/3/11 08:48 PM, Quarl wrote:
I'm thinking of moving somewhere in the next year based on a few principals:
1: Can I collaborate musically with people/people I know?
2: Are there jobs?
3: Is there affordable rent?
Music is the key.
3. Really low cost of living. Srsly, you can rent a decent sized three bedroom house for $600-$750 a month. (A two or three bedroom apartment... anywhere from $250-$400)
2. Jobs are hit and miss, but if you don't mind doing tech support or something like that, I have friends that make bank at a local place that does chat-based support in a center... and they seem to be hiring all the time.
1. Besides having awesome people like myself around... there is a booming local music scene with a variety of instrumentalists and genres represented. We've built up a decent sized rave scene (with a variety of EDM), but there are plenty into rock, indie, hip hop, jam, bluegrass, etc. bands in the area. Just about anything you could think of is well represented. I also am well-connected with several venues in the area... so finding a place to do a gig is extremely easy.
Plus, we are pretty centrally located between St. Louis, Kansas City, Tulsa, Little Rock... you can get to several major cities with a few hours worth of driving. And our airport services a ton of areas as well, with some bargain airlines that will fly you across the country for pretty cheap. (I've done round trips to Tampa, FL and back for around $100)
And on the sex vs gender note...
There are several sites/tests out there (google COGIATI) that attempt to figure out the brain sex (more so the gender) of the user. Many sites will tell you that these are flawed, for various reasons: One TS site's take on the COGIATI, but even still I think they are potentially useful for the people out there that are questioning their sex vs gender.
Personally, I've always had a pretty strong sex vs gender conflict in that I've never been able to really associate strongly as a "male". Mind you, I still like a lot of the same activities... but I'm not all that comfortable with the form I was born with.
So after researching the stuff for years and years online on my own... I finally got off my ass a few months ago and scheduled an appointment with a therapist based out of KC that does therapy in office, and via Skype. (Which made her ideal, in that I could make the drive if I wanted to... but I could also just have a therapy session in my own bedroom)
Fast forward a few months to now... I'm at the point where not only have I been diagnosed as a transsexual... (turns out denying something for years doesn't make it go away)... but now I'm cleared for hormones as soon as I get around to scheduling an appt with an endocrine doc.
Soooo yeh. If it actually is something that is bothering you, there are definitely available resources out there... but I would definitely not base my identity entirely off of what an online quiz told me. :D