My girlfriend have the Borderline..

[Quebecboy]

...syndrom

and I don't know what to do...I'm hopeless and destroyed at the same time. I love her, but my love isn't enough for her to appreciate me when she's crying or in despair. I knew not long ago she hit and cut herself and I can't do nothing about it. She's about to see a psychologist and a psychiatrist, and she's also followed by a social worker.

I'm just asking you for help... anyone that have this disease or know someone having it... can you help me? Because now it's going in the path of a break-up and I don't want that...

Please, help me.

[WeepingPhoenix]

Sometimes we just have to decide which dreams to keep and which to leave behind. It's hard for long distance relationships to work so I wish you luck on that.

[Mystery-Moon-Pie]

I have never ever heard of bordeline syndrome. Is there another name for it?

[Themarkinside]

It isn't much of a relationship if she's always crying, is it? Let her off nicely.

[RyuMaple]

Whats Borderline...

[Ass-Crumb]

Break up with her.

[Quebecboy]

Borderline Personnality Disorder

It's right here

[RyuMaple]

At 1/20/09 10:46 PM, Quebecboy wrote: Borderline Personnality Disorder

It's right here

So emotional problems?

[PanzerKorpse]

At 1/20/09 10:46 PM, Quebecboy wrote: Borderline Personnality Disorder

It's right here

Yeah, i have borderline insanity.

[Proottalfain]

Sounds like a mexican syndrome.

And to answer your question, I must say that if it doesn't get better, well don't kill yourself from the inside just for her, there are helpless people you must let go, as sad as it may be.

[Quebecboy]

It's a mental Disease has far as I know

His humor can go to total depression, total angryness, total solitude, or total happiness, total dependant to people...

It's like a rollercoaster

But yeah, it's been 10 months we've been together and yeah, I'm not the type of person who leave somebody because of a disease and I want to help her, but it seem like I can't do anything about it, so I feel powerless most of the time. They say it's a life time disease but people can live with it. So I'm just hoping for now...

[jds74]

At 1/20/09 10:51 PM, Proottalfain wrote: Sounds like a mexican syndrome.

it can't be Mexican
all Mexican words end in an O

sunbraro
nacho
taco
burito

see what I did there?

[perphekt]

if you think it's worth working on then work on it. do what you need to do to help it work.
but you can't MAKE a relationship work if it wasn't meant to be.
decide if it's meant to be or if it's meant to be a past thing.

[Elfer]

At 1/20/09 10:44 PM, WeepingPhoenix wrote: Sometimes we just have to decide which dreams to keep and which to leave behind. It's hard for long distance relationships to work so I wish you luck on that.

I'm not entirely sure where he mentioned it was long distance.

[Sensationalism]

You can talk to her about it and with her therapist, if she's comfortable with that. And be patient with her. But if it gets too hard, you can always leave. I'm sure it can be straining.

[Kronkus]

You want her to worry about you when she's emotionally unstable? She's not even fit to worry about herself.
What kind of selfish asshole are you?If you love her you will comfort her when she's emotionally unwell. If you can't do that then you don't love her and she can do better than you.

[Proottalfain]

At 1/21/09 12:27 AM, Kronkus wrote: You want her to worry about you when she's emotionally unstable? She's not even fit to worry about herself.
What kind of selfish asshole are you?If you love her you will comfort her when she's emotionally unwell. If you can't do that then you don't love her and she can do better than you.

He wants her to appreciate him. And he said it's a lifetime disease. So he's not gonna be unappreciated for his entire relationship just because she has this syndrome. That's not being selfish, that's considering yourself to be more than shit.

[Kronkus]

At 1/21/09 12:31 AM, Proottalfain wrote:

At 1/21/09 12:27 AM, Kronkus wrote:

He wants her to appreciate him. And he said it's a lifetime disease. So he's not gonna be unappreciated for his entire relationship just because she has this syndrome. That's not being selfish, that's considering yourself to be more than shit.

He said "when she's crying and in despair and shit" so unless OP's grammar is worse than I thought , She isn't always like that. If he really cared about her he'd be able to tough it out during the rough patches.

Although you could be right, she could be like that all the time.

In either case I doubt their relationship is going to work out.

[Phantom]

I hear good things about Whiskey.

Yes, drinking can make this easier for you until she's better. NyQuil too.

[Quebecboy]

well............ never mind the post.............. she just dumped me......... because she said that we were hurting each others more than anything.............

I'm destroyed..........

[MultiCanimefan]

I'm sorry to hear that, but if she has a mental disorder, there's not much you can do to help except tell her to see a Psychiatrist. This is why I tend to avoid relationships, the profit does not exceed the cost in my opinion.

[Phantom]

At 1/21/09 01:17 AM, Quebecboy wrote: I'm destroyed...

I'm sure Canada must have a brothel or two. Take your mind off of her? distracting yourself by any means possible is the key.

[NikeThanatos]

At 1/20/09 10:52 PM, Quebecboy wrote: His humor...

His huh?

[Lotus]

Give a little more insight, is she normally alright, is this something at happens at random, etc.

Gotta know a bit more to really be able to help you bro.

[Otto]

Stay with her, and when she gets over it, you'll get so muchanal.

[Lost-Chances]

All you can do is try to learn to cope with it.

[Haoie]

Think of it this way. You have a girl.

That's a million times better than the rest of us.

[xenosan]

your only 17, I personally say that you go out and experience more then one girl. But I am pro-settledownwhenyouareolderbecauseyoug ottagetallthefunstuffinlifeoutofthewaybe foreyougetmarried kind of person anway.,

[HugeSpooge]

Your girl is a freak, a retarded deviant. Kill her, before the other people in the village find her and burn her alive. It's the only right thing to do, and you know it. The fact that you let this abomination of god live is a miracle itself, you should exterminate your girlfriend and her family, and wipe out the bad genes, to make sure the gene pool is clean.

[HogWashSoup]

i would break up with her and stay away. you should not have to ruin your life or happiness for someone else. she has problems and should not be in a relationship