Losing your temper

[Sawke]

How do you keep from losing your temper? i had to spend a night with a guy who is the RUDEST person ever and extremely difficult to get along with. It was my second time meeting him. I didn't know him too well but while talking to him i could smell an argument on the horizon i did my best to cut myself off before i started yelling. He pretty much went on about how Twilight was a GREAT movie i shrugged and said "it was ok they missed stuff from the book" he got agitated and said that harry potter movies did the same. which doesn't make sense because he likes HP too. I wanted to keep going...but i don't know if he was actually rude or if he was doing it by accident all i know is that he wasn't looking at me while we were talking and THAT pissed me off, like he was bored with even DISCUSSING how "wonderful" the movie was. So i took a deep breath and looked away. If he was anyone else a 2 hour screaming match would have begun.

[sirtom93]

I control my self by not getting into situations where I would lose it.

[MasterOfDaWay666]

Twilight sucks.

Flat characters, cheesy dialouge, weak logic, a plot that goes nowhere, and not to mention it COMPLETELY destroys the concept of vampires (since when does the sun not only NOT kill them, but it makes them fucking glitter like fairies or shit like that!?) You can find better shit than this on fanfiction.net.

[J07950]

I just ignore people like that who just seem to contradict you. Having different opinions is one thing, and you can talk about it. But not being open and not being able to have an intelligent conversation is another.

[Timmy]

Meh - I used to get really worked up about stuff when I was younger, but then I met a friend who literally would not take shit from anyone. It's not like he would fight them, or get into loud arguments with them - he would simply say, "I'm not doing this" and walk away.

So I tried to model my approach to people off of him - now, when someone tries to upset me or get into an argument with me, I'll just let them know that their nonsense is not going to fly with me, and I'll just as soon walk away as sit down and deal with their bullshit. And, honestly, people will behave themselves more around me since they know that ultimatum is ever-present.

People who others can't stand to be around, I can hang with and converse with comfortably, and enjoy myself with, since that annoying person knows that they can't run their mouths like they they normally can with other people.

So, when you say you were stuck talking to that person tonight - were you really stuck talking to him, or could you simply get up and walk away from his argumentative nonsense?

[Sawke]

At 12/13/08 05:46 AM, Timmy wrote:

People who others can't stand to be around, I can hang with and converse with comfortably, and enjoy myself with, since that annoying person knows that they can't run their mouths like they they normally can with other people.

So, when you say you were stuck talking to that person tonight - were you really stuck talking to : him, or could you simply get up and walk away from his argumentative nonsense?

First of all what you're doing is not mature if you're the one who starts the arguments

Ex: I like blue

you: i don't p

erson: why not?

you: i just don't

person: you have to give me a reason you can't just-

you: i'm not doing this *walks away*

It takes two to argue. Instead of just walking away when someone disagrees with you why not just sit calmly and try to TALK. Or just not walk away just say "no more arguing" turning away is VERY rude and damn near cowardly. NOTHING gets accomplished if you don't attempt to talk in fear of a argument. I seriously doubt everyone who argues with you is a over angered maniac. There's something you're doing that's offending them and getting them riled up.

1) i never said i was STUCK talking to him. I just so happend to be talking to him and everytime i did his voice got agitated.

2) i don't RUN from arguments if he started a argument i would have sat calmly and try to reason with him. But i could tell he's the type of person who would start yelling so i didn't.

3) no i could not have gotten up and walked away because we were eating dinner.
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[BananaBreadMuffin]

You're never going to win an argument.

They're just not things that you can win.

[PaperBagMask]

So you got in an argument about twilight and harry potter.
An argument over entertainment?
That is one thing I find extremely silly and trivial, why would you even bother?

Oddly enough I don't get that angry now our days, keep focusing on the positives and I look at things from other peoples perspectives from time to time.
Also it'd take a lot more then some annoying person to make me lose my temper, I'm not going to get all riled up at a fool.

[j2witz]

Really and truly, if there is a guy who likes twilight...alrite, I don't know[come on, HE likes twilight] but don't let a guy like that piss you off.

[Kuro]

In my experience, it's always the person who says that a movie is bad that is at fault.

Saying a movie's a bad is just like spoiling it for someone else. Saying it's good is just showing your respect to the makers.

You're the one being negative here.

[Sawke]

At 12/13/08 07:51 AM, Kuro wrote: In my experience, it's always the person who says that a movie is bad that is at fault.

Saying a movie's a bad is just like spoiling it for someone else. Saying it's good is just showing your respect to the makers.

You're the one being negative here.

Are you dense?? i didn't SAY that it was bad...it was just ok. Then i said what i thought was wrong with it. Apparently you can't say opinions anymore. Its not as if i was sitting with the DIRECTOR i said it was sort of ok with minor flaws and that was my opinion. If you cant handle when someone has an opinion different to yours good luck in relationships.

[Kuro]

At 12/13/08 07:59 AM, Sawke wrote: Are you dense?? i didn't SAY that it was bad...it was just ok. Then i said what i thought was wrong with it. Apparently you can't say opinions anymore. Its not as if i was sitting with the DIRECTOR i said it was sort of ok with minor flaws and that was my opinion. If you cant handle when someone has an opinion different to yours good luck in relationships.

Hey, I just said 'in my experience'.

I'm not saying it's wrong that you're saying your opinion, I'm just saying that people tend to hate to hear people disagree with them when they like a movie SO MUCH, and that you're the one who's provoking the argument as a result.

In any case, I don't feel that 'not being entirely like the book' is a valid reason to dislike a film. It's boring to see a straight adaptation of a book.

If there's no difference, then what's the point of the movie existing in the first place?

But that's just me.

[Backbiter]

By the sound of it, I would have probably found it just as difficult to talk to that guy and him getting all agitated about you're rebuttals would only infuriate me more. I like to get into arguments especially if it was about a movie like Twilight, I would have a field day.

No matter how bias I can be about a bad movie I will still give it credit where it's due. But if arguing with someone who is being such a jerk about my negative comments on the movie I will tend to leave out any positive comments.

imo you should have smacked that guy in tha face lol

[SouthAsian]

I used to not control myself by arguing.but now I can be in the same situation and feel very calm.It's like i can tell I've changed because I get this feeling of complacency when arguing, but I don't even care!

[Feldrawn]

I sure do hate when people have different opinions than me.

It just makes me so ANGRY.

Everyone should be exactly the same, those in favor?

[TwistedPersonality]

I play with their minds and usually win.

[Cally]

It takes a lot for me to lose my temper, but if I can feel an argument brewing I try to get the subject changed. If they don't take to that well, I tell them that I don't want the discussion to get heated, which it clearly is, and unless they change the subject, I just won't talk to them until it is.

[KillerCRS]

THIS THREAD PISSES ME OFF SO MUCH THAT I WANT TO PUNCH A FUCKING WALL ALL OF YOU ARE CUNTBAGS AND I HATE YOUR GUTS. EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU GUYS DISGUSTS ME IN A WAY THAT I'VE NEVER BEEN DISGUSTED BEFORE, FUCK YOU, FUCK YOUR DOG AND I HOPE YOU GET HIT BY A GOD DAMN CAR WHILE CARRYING A CHILD OR A SMALL ANIMAL SO YOUR DEATH WILL BRING TWICE THE SADNESS TO YOUR IMMEDIATE FAMILY AND DISTANT RELATIVES.

FUCK YOU.

What temper?

In reality though I can't control my temper.

[lawlmaster]

I only get pissed off when people act immature for their age or are purposely trying to be an ass.

[Gatling]

Mostly when I feel a pointless argument is about to arise I just shut up or walk away. I always try to avoid onflict over pointless matters.

[DumbassDude]

I bottle it up, then unleash it on a stress ball, it works wonders.

[EvilJesus]

At 12/13/08 10:11 AM, DumbassDude wrote: I bottle it up, then unleash it on a stress ball, it works wonders.

This only works if you're a man thought Professor!

[flashplayer5]

I haven't lost my temper at anyone in a long time. It takes an incredible amount of pushing to get me to the point of yelling at someone, but the last time it almost happened I think I just took a few deep breaths, and thought about how stupid losing your temper makes you look.

[Warrickneff]

At 12/13/08 06:45 AM, Sawke wrote:

At 12/13/08 05:46 AM, Timmy wrote:

So, when you say you were stuck talking to that person tonight - were you really stuck talking to : him, or could you simply get up and walk away from his argumentative nonsense?

It takes two to argue. Instead of just walking away when someone disagrees with you why not just sit calmly and try to TALK. Or just not walk away just say "no more arguing" turning away is VERY rude and damn near cowardly. NOTHING gets accomplished if you don't attempt to talk in fear of a argument. I seriously doubt everyone who argues with you is a over angered maniac. There's something you're doing that's offending them and getting them riled up.

I don't think Timmy was trying to get you to walk away from an "argument" as such. I think he's talking more about "argumentative nonsense", considering it's what he fucking said.

If someone is giving you shit over liking the color blue, walking away is acceptable.
If you feel otherwise, then perhaps YOU are the unbearable person... seriously, it's a fucking color.

The conversations should have gone:
Me "I don't like blue"
Them "Why not?"
Me "I just don't"
Them "You have to give a reason."
Me "Fuck you it's a color you sound like an idiot."

However, if you're discussing something like religion or a topic that you happen to feel that your opinion is genuinely valid then there's no problem with sticking around to make your point! Especially if you started the discussion.

Maybe that's the source of the confusion... I never use the term 'argument' when people are being reasonable, because the whole nature of 'arguing' goes against common principles of getting a point across.

2) i don't RUN from arguments if he started a argument i would have sat calmly and try to reason with him. But i could tell he's the type of person who would start yelling so i didn't.

He sounds like a boner. Walking away (from someone like him) doesn't make you a coward of any sorts.

In the same situation, I would have simply called him out on it. But yes, I empathize to your situation, sometimes a solution isn't readily available or apparent.

[HomicidialFrog]

I usually think their not there...And soothe my mind.

If all fails the only option: *Diabolicial Voice* Murder! *Dun Dun DUN!*

[Sawke]

At 12/13/08 08:05 AM, Kuro wrote:

At 12/13/08 07:59 AM, Sawke wrote: Are you dense?? i didn't SAY that it was bad...it was just ok. Then i said what i thought was wrong with it. Apparently you can't say opinions anymore. Its not as if i was sitting with the DIRECTOR i said it was sort of ok with minor flaws and that was my opinion. If you cant handle when someone has an opinion different to yours good luck in relationships.

Hey, I just said 'in my experience'.

I'm not saying it's wrong that you're saying your opinion, I'm just saying that people tend to hate to hear people disagree with them when they like a movie SO MUCH, and that you're the one who's provoking the argument as a result.

In any case, I don't feel that 'not being entirely like the book' is a valid reason to dislike a film. It's boring to see a straight adaptation of a book.

There you go again making assumptions. I didn't say i didn't like the movie because it wasn't EXACTLY like the book. I wasn't entirely IMPRESSED by it because i felt there were a lot of plot holes and things that were in the book that would have bettered the plot of the movie. Things were left out. Just because you like something doesn't mean you have to ignore what's wrong with it and if you hate something doesn't mean you shouldn't give credit where credit was due. Yes the movie didn't have enough emotion as the book, but as for the actors they were definately wonderful choices and the setting was perfect. There positive and negative points!

I GUESS i am the only person in the world who can accept what is wrong with the movies i love. For every movie i love i can give you what was at fault with it, and i wouldn't jump down someones throat if they said they didn't like a movie i loved as long as they gave a valid reason.

If there's no difference, then what's the point of the movie existing in the first place?

But that's just me.

[CapnCrunchDaPimp]

I think of other stuff and how idiotic it would be if I let my anger get the best of me, chew on the inside of my mouth, bite my tongue, grit my teeth, look away, and I get out of that place and swear loudly.

[rome-lherison]

At 12/13/08 05:36 AM, Sawke wrote: How do you keep from losing your temper?

You masturbate

[ViceFullbuster]

At 12/13/08 05:36 AM, Sawke wrote: How do you keep from losing your temper?

Weed and Valium/Xanax works wonders