At 12/8/08 04:34 AM, Cheese-on-toast wrote:
Do you genuinely want our input? Or are you just venting?
I think he just came in to vent, which is quite alright, but I'm gonna give some input due to the fairly likely chances of me being completely wrong on that.
I think you might have handled this badly, and that's what she's more angry about. When she suggested cancelling the night out, what exactly did you say in return? If you said anything about all the money, planning, and effort that you put into it, you've gone the wrong way. This would make it sound as if you're less interested in making her happy, and more interested in showing off your wealth. Altogether, making you appear selfish. If you raised your voice at any point, you've gone about it the wrong way. This just makes you look like a whiner/moaner/angry git... And none of those are desirable traits.
You should have told her that you want to do something special for her, and that you want to show her how much it means to you to have such a good friend for such a long time.
However, since the situation has already escalated, I suggest the age-old solution of: apologise, call yourself an idiot, and do whatever she wanted to do for the evening. This will make her happy, and preserve what's left of your friendship.