She's Indecisive and I'm "immature" !
I have a friend Maria. Her and I got along phenomenally. When I first met her, she stuck to me. She just did. I met her in my friend's science class when I had to make up some work for the teacher. All the kids were at tables, working on their projects and she sat right next to me and just started telling me about herself. Right from the start. Months went by and I started seeing her before her science class and eventually we became friends.
We talked all the time on facebook and stuff. Literally, I came from talking to her once every week, to once every couple of days, to multiple times every single day. We just clicked. Rumors flew between both of our groups of friends that she liked me and wanted to date me. At this time, it was the middle of summer. I had work, going to cape cod, and other things to worry about. I couldn't even imagine having a girlfriend because I was so busy. She would ask me to hang out and I'd tell her that I was busy. That would repeat over and over.
Now, lets skip to last Saturday. She called me up from a block party her and her friend were at. She asked if I could hang out. I told her, I had no ride, but if she and her friend wanted, they could come over my place. She was thrilled and was so excited. The car she was in pulled up to the sidewalk and I waited at my front door outside. She went out, shut the door and ran up to me and immediately gave me the biggest hug I ever received. She didn't even look back at her friend who was trotting behind her. I let them both onto my deck and we spent the night talking, making jokes, and having a good time. Next thing I know, she had to leave since her brother was picking her up. All of us were ashamed and disappointed. Although when she left, she gave me another big hug and I asked if she had plans for the next day. She told me "no" and said that she would call me. She texted me later that night and said that I didn't know how happy she was to see me again. She was so excited to spend time with me finally.
The next day arrived and she texted me, asking if her, Christina, me, and my friend Dylan would want to hang out. "I'll ask dylan. If he's up for it" I told her. I asked dylan and he had plans, so he was out of the picture. Then Maria (that's her name) told me that her friend, Christina, that was over my house with her, couldn't make it tonight.
"Well...how about you can just come over and we can watch a movie at my place?" I told her
"Sure Tyler! It'll be fun! I'll be there at eight!" she said
So 8 o'clock came around the corner and she arrived just like last time. She ran up and gave me a big hug. We went inside and she met my parents who were eating dinner in the kitchen and we all chatted for a quick sec. We went into my living room and watched the movie we picked out. Five minutes into the movie she jokingly leans her head on me. I know what she's implying to I put my arm around her and she cuddles up next to my chest. Then later on she rests her hand, palm up, on my knee. I knew what she wanted and I held her hand with my free arm. We watched the movie, made stupid jokes, and had great conversations.
Next thing I know she leans up and starts kissing me. I was surprised since, well, this was my first kiss. I was thrilled! So we start kissing each other and eventually go back to the movie. Then, moments later, more towards the end of the film, she looks up again and we make eye contact for a few seconds. She sits up and starts making out with me. Tongue and everything. We were both really into it. Next thing we know, the film ends and she gets a call from her Mom. She's coming to pick her up. Maria and I are both disappointed. I turn off the tv and we both stand in the dark. We start making out FOR THE THIRD TIME! So we're making out in my living room and minutes later, we walk into my porch and wait for her Mom. We share a spot on the tiny bench I have and we wait and chat. When her Mom pulls up, we both stand up and hug one another. I give her a kiss on the cheek and she gives me another peck on the lips. We both walked away so happy that night.
Here's when it gets ugly...
Monday morning, I text her. Maria, this whole time had been indecisive about dating me. Not just me, but all her past boyfriends. She never knew if she wanted a relationship or not. The relationship between us, was that "we were playing it by ear". So I text her monday morning and ask
"so...monday night went well, huh?"
"I don't know..." she told me minutes later
"What do you mean? I thought we were both having a great time?" I asked
"We're just friends..." she told me after a few minutes.
"But...I was so positive that you liked me?! We did all that stuff together!"
"I know. I'm sorry"
So basically, I invited a girl over that was so indecisive whether or not she had feelings for me. She made all these moves on me, made out with me MULTIPLE TIMES, then when I ask her out, she tells me that we are only friends. She felt uncomfortable, but wouldn't she know if it felt weird the first time she kissed me, not after the fourth?! A large handful of her friends told me that she wanted to kiss me so badly and wanted to date me. When I told all of them what happened, none of them were expecting it because she talked to much about it.
Then a few days later, after we stopped talking for a few days (after a small arguement we had on Monday morning, ending with me telling her that I really don't know what to expect from her.), she texted me so randomly a few days later and texts me this...
"Tyler, I'm so glad that you're cool with us being just friends. Thank you so much for not giving me a rough time and hounding me about not wanting to be your girlfriend. Well, I'm going to bed now, good night"
Now, first of all, I NEVER said that we were cool and that I understood. I ended the argument with "I don't know what I can expect from you anymore". So where would she get the idea that me and her were both on even ground about this? Then the fact that she tells me that she's going to bed, just because she doesn't want me to tell her off again. I texted her yesterday for the first time since last Monday and ask if I can talk to her sometime during school tomorrow. She responds like this
"About what?"
"I'd feel more comfortable if I jsut talked to you face to face about this." I told her
"Just tell me now" she asked
"No, I won't tell you now because I don't want you to hide behind a keyboard when I'm talking to you about stuff like this. If we talk in person, you can't just delete it and forget about it." I told her
"Alright, fine, you can talk to me. But it better not be you hounding me to be your girlfriend!" she said
Now, she obviously knew what I wanted to talk to her about, but she just hid from it by trying to persuade me to talk about it.
"Actually, I wouldn't be hounding you to be my girlfriend. I never did that! I just wanted to tell you that what you did the other night was completely wrong of you! You fucking played me!" I said
I left for work and during that time I get a message from her. She blabbers, trying to defend herself that she didn't play me, even though she did toy with my emotions when she rejected me. Then part of the message says
"You're 15! Clearly you're too young and immature to be acting like this! So if you ever plan on talking to me, it better not be about this, because I don't want to hear you yell at me!"
I never answered that text. I got advice from all of her friends, especially one of her closest ones. She told me to not feel like it's my problem, because she did toy with my feelings. She told me that Maria knew she liked me, but she always acted weird with guys. Her friend told me to lay low for a while and not talk to her for a few days/weeks. Hopefully she will wonder about herself and come to her senses and talk to me. Is this a good idea? I still really want to date her.
