At 11/22/09 04:02 AM, Gagsy wrote:
At 11/22/09 03:18 AM, TheGodfather wrote:
I dunno why I'm asking Newgrounds though, you're all virgins or complete asshats, and most likely can't comprehend love. And it's not as easy as just "finding another". Because I've dated 30+ girls to find her.
I forgot to mention, I find this highly insulting. If you want advice, my first real piece of advice would be to try and not offend the people you asking help from. It's mighty egotistical of you to say that most of us here cannot comprehend love, but yet still you are asking us for help.
Because it's true, everybody knows that Newgrounds is full of freaks and monsters. But in all seriousness I was actually trying to provoke Newgrounds into proving me wrong. But so far everybody's proven the asshat part.
Besides, you're just 16, I don't care how long you've been with this girl, you don't even fully understand the extent of real love, even though you might think differently. Age and experience can change how a man sees the world. Always it always will.
Actually it should be 17 almost 18. I'm assuming that's my profile's fault. Okay so let's say you are right. That when I began dating up until now that I haven't learned anything. And that in 4 years when I reach 22 (your supposed age) that I'll look at love so much different just because I've dated 5, 10, 15, etc. more girls. Not to be offensive or anything but, how many relationships have you actually gone through? Have you experienced all of the fun and sadness from them? The good? The bad? AND the ugly? I mean all of the above? I'm assuming that the only difference between now and then would be A. Complete Freedom of Parentals B. Living with that somebody that you love. C. Doing more fun things because you're over the legal limit like going to clubs and parties. D. Attempting no to fuck up and cheat on that person because of drugs and/or alcohol related predicaments. Seriously. What else am I not understanding here Gagsy? Implore me if you may.
At 11/22/09 05:50 AM, Lost-Chances wrote:
There's a large difference, at least I think. Your ex-to-be wouldn't do it on purpose. On the other hand, you're planning to.
Calm down guy. I was mainly kidding. I don't like the idea of hurting her, but it seems like she's doing this to me with no compassion. I just wish she'd have more hope for us and not give up so early. It's sad man. Really.
At 11/22/09 06:34 AM, TheUnwisePoet wrote:
Love is shit... I like a girl about 4 years...
Whoa, that's kinda sad bro. Like, you're a guitarist but you can't get a girl? Why is that? Like do your parents not let you preform at any venues or anything? Not even the local coffee shop? Best of luck to you on becoming a musician. You're going to need it bro.
At 11/22/09 09:17 AM, Fyndir wrote:
Begin preparing yourself now.
She has spoken the words, she has already decided.
She hasn't really spoken the words, it's more of like; "Hey if we can't keep doing this after HighSchool then it's over." She wants to, but she doesn't know if we can do it. She doesn't have hope. If she did it would make a difference. But she won't. Maybe she'll see things differently in due time.
Nothing you can say or do will change that now, all you can do is try to prepare yourself mentally and be prepared for a mountain of betrayal and pain, anger and grief.
You won't want to admit to the anger at first, but it will be there, searing and simmering at the back of your mind, until you're ready to accept it.
You will concentrate your mind on the pain and the grief, pushing the betrayal and the anger away from you like so much unclean filth, you will construct elaborate sets of circumstance in which none of this is really happening to you, and you will wait to awaken from this nightmare.
That scares me. Because I know it's true. The passion I have for her will turn into anger. I've had this happen before. But only mildly for someone I only kinda cared about compared to her.
You may well feel like ending your life at some point during this, and I recommend not doing that.
See, now it seems like you're reading my future. Because I can totally see myself doing something like that.
Eventually you will feel the betrayal and the anger, and they will come pouring out of you, like the bursting of a dam, with the inevitability of the tides, you will know then what kind of man you are.
I will have to make a choice, right?
Will you seek her out and scream at her for what she has done to you?
Maybe not scream.
Will you keep it to yourself and avoid all contact?
Maybe. I might keep in contact with close friends. Try to move on.
Will you share your emotions with your closest friends and hope they understand?
Sadly, I don't picture my friends understanding. They aren't as... "mature" as I am yet. They're still ONLY thinking about getting laid, while I'm focusing on keeping someone I truly care for not for the sake of sex, but love. So no.
That said, you are 16, who knows what will truly happen within your hormonal mind?
Again, 17 almost 18 but yeah. I get your point.
At 11/22/09 09:20 AM, Chdonga wrote:
Give her four flowers. One and only one must be plastic. Tell her even though you may not see her as much, you'll still love her until the flowers die.
Ha, that's very creative. I will indeed keep that in mind good sir.
At 11/22/09 09:51 AM, UnknownFear wrote:
My girlfriend and I are in the same boat. However, she is currently in college and she will be done in August. I will also be done my 5th year in high school in June. We both will be moving to Toronto because we love each other and don't want to be inseparable. But yes, it would be devastating if her and I went our separate ways.
THIS. See now this is the kind of response I wanted. Somebody who's had experience.
I wish for you to tell me more if you can sir. Because it would help me. A lot. If you read this. Please tell me more.
At 11/22/09 09:57 AM, halfangelfreak wrote:
Well, I can't really help you here. Sorry, but I've never HAD to deal with girl problems. >.>
Still on my first for a year now.
Funny, I expected more responses like this than just one.
At 11/22/09 10:10 AM, Shmossy wrote:
You're 16, and you think you can comprehend love? I mean, seriously dude, you think you're so much better and more mature than us because you've "dated 30+ girls" to "find her".
Well... yes actually. I do. Because; age < experience. It's been proven everywhere.
In work, in war, in life in general.
People like you criticize because you THINK you're better because of age. Age only improves on knowledge.
Skill can be built in days. Knowledge can be built in years.
Well done losing your virginity, you're so much better than all the people here who haven't.
No I don't, because I regret it. It was with someone I didn't actually love.
In fact. Most of the sex I have had was with somebody I didn't really even love.
This one. This one is different. Not like the other women I've dated.
Grow up, and next time when you ask for advice don't insult the people you're asking.
No, you should grow up good sir. Because you don't have the proper experience to comprehend what I'm talking about. I'm going to assume that you haven't had many relationships before, much less sexual if none at all.
I'm also going to assume you're in the same age group as me, if not a tad older or younger; which means that you also don't have a clue what the fuck you're talking about if you want to use age. See, you're losing a battle that you can't win. Because you lack age and the experience both. So how about you come back when you HAVE had actual experience with relationships and understanding the feelings and emotional attachments you get in them and then MAYBE... you'll understand. Until then. Shut your fucking face.
