At 9/4/08 09:41 PM, Peacekid wrote:
Question: Where and what would you do on a first date with someone, assuming you've had no experience what so ever?
No experience with girls at all? Or none with that particular girl?
Either way, do something different, something she'll remember. Hit up the zoo on a nice day, see how she reacts to all the animals. Spread a blanket on the street and take in the stars. Bake a cake with her, add all the crazy-ass toppings you want, and dig the fuck in. Find a little cafe somewhere and hear some poetry readings.
Or watch a chick flick with her and act like you enjoy it, at least a little bit. That always helps. I'd suggest The Notebook.
At 9/6/08 01:58 AM, TheBlackDahliaMurder wrote:
Is it possible I will get my feelings back for her?
To be fair, anything is possible, and I believe that ruling anything out is a bit silly. But you need to be honest with yourself: can you see yourself ever loving her again? You can only pretend for so long.
I can understand how this could be more than a bit of a pickle, I've dealt with similar situations. I'm afraid that there's no simple solution this time, someone's going to end up getting hurt in the end. And it's probably going to be her, no matter which way you swing it. It comes down to you accepting that she isn't going to be okay, and that there isn't much you can do about it.
But even as you hear me say that, recall that it isn't an absolute answer. You could always wait it out, hope to get your feelings back. If you really want to get out of the relationship, you could gradually change yourself to make her lose interest in you and eventually end it herself. Or you could simply break up with her yourself on the grounds that you no longer feel for her like you used to; it happens all the time.
Best of luck, whatever you choose.