Are you friends with people of different ethnicitys? do you ever feel left out or isolated? i have two very close white friends (i'm half black) but i feel very isolated from them, i like them, but they say and do things that are kinda offensive, and they also try to style me to look as much like them as possible, i have curly thick hair, and they are constantly demanding me to straighten it, dye it, whatever.
I see that they can think that my hair looks nice straight, but despite my telling them that i burn myself when i straighten it myself, and it costs too much money to do professionally they keep looking at my hair with disgust, which is not dirty and is somewhat tamed. Think of Sarah Jessicas Parkers hair and add some frizz.
Finally they had a friend that kept screaming "NI****" over and over not at me but as some kinda of stupid rambling nonsense.... and as most people will vouch when surrounded by people who are different from you but the same with eachother it's very difficult to defend yourself without looking like a nut. I told my friends what she was doing was bothering me and they just dismissed it as her joking around, am i being too sensitive or are they bad company?