At 12/1/09 01:47 PM, Gagsy wrote:
I bet 9 out of 10 users will have had/have grandparents who remained marriage all their adult life. It's shows you how the world now has changed. Views of marriage/commitment were more enforced back in their day then they are in ours.
Just thought I should point that out that people wouldn't think it's absolutely hopeless. People just aren't ready to completely commit themselves and get through the hard times since divorce is so easy these days. I swear I've heard way too many cases of "Let's get a divorce since I'm bored with you". Those cases just make me want to hit my head on a wall several times.
Not to mention the laws about how the women get most of the stuff when divorced, although this depends on the country they live in, that scares the guys a lot, they don't want to risk it. Luckily in Finland we have good laws about the belongings so that you can make an official areement on what stuff gets split on a divorce and what doesn't, although about 25% use that advantage because the other half always goes like "OHMIGOD DON'T YOU TRUST ME AT ALL?" and then it ends on a divorce and the guy loses it all. I think it's called premarital agreement in English, but that's according to a translator. So all in all, people should do it, whether they believe in the relationship or not, because it can save your ass if it doesn't work out.