At 2/18/08 02:21 AM, Vincoid wrote:
Ah, a typical scenario. Let me explain what I think happened here:
-You give your number, she calls to get to know you, you turn out be nic to hang out with, she tests you by 'showing' you her feelings.
-Time passes, she keeps feeling stuff for you, you hang out again.
-You don't see her very often but talk on the phone every once in a while. Now, here is what I think went wrong. Either the attraction decreased, or she is getting to like you more and thus tests you more.
This girl didn't call you back while she said she would. Guess what? This happens to guys all the time. They meet a girl who shows interest, they give them there number but the girl never calls. Why did the girl accept the number? Attention. There are girls who will accept your number knowing, in advance, that they will not call you back.
But your situation is obviously different since you already know the girl and have met her etc.
So what's going on here? Like I said, she is testing you. You did the right thing when you waited for her to call you everytime, so now she is testing you to see if you can keep that up by being flaky.
Not calling a guy back is a great test for girls to see if the guy doesn't give a shit, calls her on it, or (the most common) starts calling her every ten minutes to get a hold of her.
What to do: call her again. But don't ask her if she can make it or not. Call her on being flaky. Tell her that she has to hold true to her word if she wants to have a chance with you. NEVER communicate that you need her.
Also, to avoid girls not calling back, don't arrange a date or meeting with a girl 2 or more days before the actual meeting. That way, they know if they have time for you and they tend to be less flaky since you don't seem needy.
Hey thanks man, you really know your stuff... I think i should hang around here more and get some advice, but anyways here is an update
The day we were suppose to hang out, she didn't call until around 6:30pm then she asked if we were still going to hang out, by this time I had already figured she wasn't going to call me again, so I just started working on art and stuff.
So I told her this, "Umm.. nah I think its already getting pretty late, I've got things I gotta do tonight, you should have called earlier, then we could have hung out, but oh well your loss." She was shaken because this is the first time I've denied a chance to hang out with her ( This is when I started learning the Game btw )
After I said that, I started receiveing multiple IOI's from her, I let her know that I was getting low on money and I had to save it so I could find a job and stuff, she said that I should get a job where she lives and live with her and stuff... anyways
well just yesterday I gave her a call just to chat, I was acting like I didn't need her, and it seemed to be working pretty well... I also negged her a bit, almost every time I did, she started Qualifiying herself to me... We talked for roughly a half hour.
So now i'm going to just wait, and let her call me next, she said she was going to let me know next time she comes out to visit.
Hopefully i get a job before then! *sigh*